If you cannot find a good companion to walk with, walk alone, like an elephant roaming the jungle. It is better to be alone than to be with those who will hinder your progress.
Buddha
Many of us are afraid of being alone. We will do almost anything to make that not happen. We will begin and stay in relationships that are not healthy. We will cling fervently and desperately to those who we fear will leave us. We will give up who we are to conform and fit in. The idea of being alone can be more terrifying than not growing into the people we were meant to be. We may give up everything so "alone" doesn't happen.
Our fear prevents us from seeing the preciousness of solitude and the gift of freedom that lies in it. If we did not fear the prospect of it...would we not be more inclined to be ourselves? Would we not be more honest and real around others? Would we not only accept what is healthy and good for us in terms of relationships? Would we not find peace regardless if we were in a relationship or not? We would stop clinging to that which did not lead us forward and only held us back...would we not? We are meant to grow and relationships should not prevent us from doing that...the fear of being alone should not hold us back.
We are social animals, yes, and we are meant to love but we are not meant to fear. If fear is at the basis of our relationships, how healthy are they? Besides, resisting the possibility of solitude only makes the likelihood for it to persist. Our resistance and our fear of being alone may damage the relationships we have. If, on the other hand, we are okay alone, we can find peace anywhere with anyone.
Do not be afraid to be alone. Solitude is a beautiful thing. It gives us the opportunity to discover who we are and what we want. It brings peace and healing to the self and all the relationships we will begin or step back into. Embrace the opportunity, knowing as the elephant does, that he will rejoin his family soon enough.
All is well in my world.
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