Morning Practice-Poem

 Morning Practice

The sleepy fingers of morning 

tap gently

on my window pain.(pane...lol...Freudian) 

From layers of protective sleep,

 I awaken

to its gentle and rhythmic percussion,

 to its choir humming the mantra of Life

in the back ground,

buzzing,  and singing

in glorious praise for what is.

I open my eyes to the golden limbs of light

stretching, flexing and balancing

on nature’s open and receptive mat.

 

Reluctantly, wearily,

dragging with me the heavy heart and mind

I have been carrying around

 like a weighted blanket,

I remove myself from this  bed.

I make my way to the window ,

so aware of the hesitancy  of my own limbs,

the claustrophobic breath caught in  my chest,

this tiny  mind beginning to  twirl and swirl  with activity

as it too  comes  back to its usual hyperactive life.

Then I witness , in awe, 

a true Yogi practice.

A ritual of reverence takes place before me.

Graceful limbs of early morning sun

bend and lengthen,

contract and expand

as the awakening world inhales and exhales

 in perfect synchrony.  

Breath,  and body of light move as

one upon the earth

where time suddenly ceases to be important .

And as I watch, warm and golden fingertips

 reach up  from the smiling yogi

to gently pierce the veil that

 I have been wearing

for much too long.

The heaviness falls off me,

these lungs expand , 

this heart opens,

the mind stops,

just  long enough to allow the light inside.

I find myself inhaling as I stretch up toward

a spacious sky so inviting,

exhaling,  I bend to brush

my fingers along the solid and stable earth.  

I do my best to mimic the moves of

the Great Teacher in front of me.

Asana after asana,

breath after breath,

 I salute It

as It  salutes me,

and for a timeless moment

we are One.

© Dale-Lyn , May, 2022

I woke up to this beautiful light outside my window.  I have not been feeling 100 percent, so I really just wanted to go back to sleep but no, I knew this light had caught my attention for a reason.  It had broken through my heavy mind and my heavy body with a gift I could either ignore or I could appreciate. I had that little voice go off inside me, "Poem!"  So I decided, reluctantly, as the poem expresses ...to appreciate.  Firstly, I got up and went to the window to watch the rays of a lovely sunrise stretch across my lawn.  It really was breath taking.  I felt the sun was saluting me...so of course, I had to salute it.  I proceeded to do my sun salutations with much more reverence and mindfulness than I have in a long, long time. And secondly, because I  tend to show my appreciation for such beauty through poetry... I followed the calling and wrote a poem. (Appreciation for beauty was the my third strongest character strength according to the exercise I did...go figure. ) 

This poem did not come out here...but for some reason I felt compelled to put it here.

All is well! 

Full Awareness of Breathing

 "The Full Awareness of Breathing, if developed and practiced continuously according to these instructions, will be rewarding and of great benefit"

From the Discourse on the Full Awareness of Breathing/Plum Village 

Yesterday I wrote about dealing with my puny little woes using the first eight steps of the Buddha's Mindful Breathing exercises. Those steps focus on the body and feelings.  I have a tendency, in case you didn't notice, to want to finish what I start lol.

The next eight steps deal with concentrating and contemplation on our mental formations and on certain things we are taught.  Mental formations are all the thinking, feeling, perceiving, judging, narrating, labeling etc etc that goes on in our heads. Some of that would be considered "positive" and some of it "negative" but we need to remember that both "positive" and "negative" are judgments and therefore mental formations in themselves. The steps are:

• 9. Recognize and be aware of the state of your mind as you breathe noting any mental formation that comes up into your conscious awareness. Maybe it will be a feeling like anger, or a thought like "I am not good at this" or a judgment like "That is wrong" etc Though we do not want to get lost in story and narration, we might gently recognize that "This is a thought" or "this is a belief" or " this is a feeling" 
• 10.  Then we attempt to gladden the mind by breathing in and out with that in mind.  We call up the seeds of mindfulness, joy, happiness, and peace etc from store consciousness
• 11. Then we breath in and out in order to steady the mind and create balance and harmony once again
• 12. Finally, in regards to our awareness of mind, we breathe in and out to release the mind of its tensions...and its focus on the mental formations.
• 13. We focus on certain "notions" here to make them "insights".  Notions are things we are taught  and conditioned to believe and insights are things we experience fully and "know".  The first notion we contemplate until it becomes an insight is "impermanence, the ever changing nature of all phenomenon" including what goes on in our minds.  As we watch our thoughts, for example, come in, flutter around, go from here to there then leave ...this notion of impermanence becomes an insight. 
• 14.Then we contemplate the notion of "detachment" or "dispassion" or "non-desire"seeing how our fruitless attempts to grasp and cling to what we thought made us happy never did...how it leads to more suffering, for example.
• 15. We contemplate "birth, no birth" or "cessation" or "Nirvana" until it too advances from a mere notion to an insight.  We can contemplate water in our minds, for example, and see  how water can go from many forms , from the water in the lake to ice in the lake, from the earth to the sky in the form of evaporated mist and then to the clouds and from the clouds back to the earth in the form of rain.  It is forever changing , never really beginning and never really ending ...just going around and around.  Who we are between these forms was never born and will never die...the form changes from one year to the next, from one incarnation to the next ...but who we are doesn't. 
• 16. Finally we contemplate letting go, releasing all all our notions that no longer serve. We release the notion of us as the observer as well and learn to see the non duality, the inter-beingness of our existence, of all existence. There is a line in the Vasisthas that comes to mind here: Renounce  all notions and then renounce the renouncer of these notions. 

Hmm! something to ponder.

All is well! 

The Mindfulness Bell/Thich Nhat Hanh (Winter /Spring 2010) Dharma Talk/Sutra on the Full Awareness of Breathing. https://www.mindfulnessbell.org/archive/tag/16+exercises+for+mindful+breathing

Dhamma Wiki (Jan, 2009) 16 Steps of Breath Meditation https://www.dhammawiki.com/index.php/16_steps_of_breath_meditation

Mindful Breathing in Healing

 

Anger, hate, despair, joy, jealousy, compassion, all continue to take turns manifesting. ...You don't need to fight or to grasp, you just recognize them as they arise, as they stay for some time, and as they go away. 

Thich Nhat Hanh

Hidden Beneath the Defense Mechanisms 

Chest pain creeping up to an 8 and those thoughts, memories and feelings are once again creeping in to my conscious awareness with it. I wrote yesterday that I don't know how to heal from this mild form of PTSD I experience here.  My first reaction is to dismiss it as quickly as it arises. I tend to go to denial right away...which is very common defense mechanism used with angina.  I am doing somewhat better there. I am  better at not denying the chest pain and other physical symptoms to myself at least though I still do to some degree.  I do not fear death anymore and that fear always made the attacks worse...I would be quickly  overwhelmed with a sense of doom , you know? To avoid the doom, I would deny.  I don't have that doom clouding my judgement now so I don't have to deny the pain to the degree I once did.   My fear now is with having to re-access the health care system....that is where the "trauma" trigger is for me and the thought of having to do that is what brings up all those suppressed and repressed memories and feelings I stuff down inside.  Those feelings I attempt to deny by pushing them down as soon as they start to come  back up. It is that which  I don't want to experience.  So I deny, I stuff down with repression and suppression and I also do what I can to relieve the pain. once I get past any remaining denial of it.  If I can get the pain to go away...I tell myself ...I don't have to deal with the other stuff. I avoid having to deal with what I believe to be the source of my fear...the health care system. So now I have denial, suppression, repression and avoidance covering that which needs to be exposed and healed. Oh and I use rationalization and intellectualization  as well.  I have a very rehearsed script  full of points, notions, excuses and reasons for not dealing with this in an assertive way that my mind turns to. Sigh! 

So that is the pain or dukkha that I am experiencing and I wrote yesterday that I don't know how to deal with it...but truth is, I do know how.  And listening to the wisdom of Thich Nhat Hanh today through an audio book entitled Fear...I was reminded that I have the tools for dealing with this sense of suffering. I can do it through mindful breathing.

Mindful Breathing Heals 

The Buddha, I am told, had offered a discourse on Mindful Breathing as a means to help us transcend our suffering. It encompasses 16 steps.  Those steps involve working with the body ( and breath is body) ; working with the feelings,and working with other mental formations , noting the difference between an insight and a notion as we concentrate on them. For now I will just use the first eight in relation to what I am experiencing right now (chest pain has subsided as I rest here btw...it only gets worse when I get up to do anything. So maybe I will stay here all day lol ) The first eight steps are: 

1. Become aware that you are breathing in and that you are breathing out.  Mindfulness for me begins with awareness of my breath.  As long as I am focusing on breath, all other mental junk is not at the focus of my attention.  And breath is exactly what my body needs now

2. We take that farther by then being very mindful to follow the breath...follow it as we breathe in from nostrils to abdomen, and follow it as we breathe out from abdomen to nostrils.  Again this mindfulness anchor of breath brings us out of our busy minds and it also soothes the Sympathetic Nervous System which in turn soothes the heart. We are soothing mind and body here.

3. Then we become aware of body on the inhale, This reconnects us to the body we likely ignored and pushed to the point where we are experiencing pain.  We are reminded of it and become willing to rest and nurture it.  Well that is what my experience is

4. Then on the exhale, we gently encourage the body to release tension and be calm This farther soothes the Sympathetic Nervous System, allowing the Parasympathetic system ( Rest and Digest) to take the reins of our momentary experience which is much better for the heart. It reminds us of our body and we  release tension and relax the body which helps to diminish physical pain as well as emotional.  I have less chest pain as I do this and less thought. 

5. From the body our attention goes to our emotions.  We begin with the positive emotions  in order to create a peaceful, joyful space to bring our pain to. We recognize and generate joy. Now joy is different than happiness.  It is what I like to call "hopeful happiness" ...where you are excited and anticipating something wonderful from the external world . Hanh uses the example, of spotting a dessert oasis in the distance where you, as a thirsty traveler,  may get a drink. It is the anticipation of that drink. We all have seeds of joy and happiness within us waiting to be nourished and cultivated and there are always conditions for us to be happy within us and around us as well. So we purposefully look for joy "out there" and purposefully recognize and generate joy from within.  I look for the seeds of joy within me...which is possibility, potential...I hope for a good outcome through all the potential in me and out there.  This might be where my Signature strengths might come in handy ...as reasons for joy...they can bring us to that water.  My strengths if adequately used may bring me to health or at least to  a sense of peace.  It may bring me to resolution of this pain I have within me. etc 

6. We recognize and generate happiness.  As said earlier, we have all the conditions we need for happiness within us and around us.  We just need to purposefully recognize them and generate them. Whereas to me, joy is "hopeful happiness", happiness is , "Satiated and grateful  joy" .  It is the quenching of your thirst after you drink the water.  Hope is not required here...you are satisfied with what is. I have given up "notions" of false joy I once had that went something like this, "I will be happy when I get the diagnosis and treatment  needed to make my Life better." for the happiness of finding peace, gratitude  and satisfaction in what is.  Well I am still working on that one.  What I anticipated I would experience once I was treated and supported  externally, I attempt to feel without this  external support.  Make sense? I am so very, very grateful for everything...for my heart and all it has done and can do.  You know? Grateful.

7. Once we have created this peaceful, joyful and happy space we call up our pain from the basement. We recognize our pain and look deeply into it. Let's begin with naming and identifying what we are feeling, experiencing it and allowing it to be.

8.  Then we embrace our pain So I say to physical pain, to shame, to fear, to hopelessness, to resentment, to anger, to despair..."Come sit beside me.  I see you, I know you have something to say, I know you didn't like being hidden away again and again.  I am here for you now.  Tell me what you need me to hear."  And we put our arm around this pain and we are fully present for it. We allow it to be. We watch it, as we see all feelings, all forms in this world doing, being for a bit then quietly getting up and walking away. Pain is naturally released when we are open to it and not resisting.  Hmm! 

This really helps.  Try it the next time you find that you  are getting lost in your own sense of suffering.

All is well! 

Thich Nhat Hanh (October ,2020) Fear. Spotify audio

The Mindfulness Bell/ Thich Nhat Hanh ( Spring 2010) Dharma Talk/ Sutra on the Full Awareness of Breathing https://www.mindfulnessbell.org/archive/tag/16+exercises+for+mindful+breathing

Plum Village App/ Thich Nhat Hanh ( June, 2021) The First Eight Exercises of Mindful Breathing. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O_iDaIAPrGo

Signature Strengths

Survey research has found  that most people ( up to two-thirds)  don't have a meaningful awareness of their strengths. What's more, its all too common to under-use their strengths.  

Dr. Ryan Niemiec 

Sharing Too Much? 

Now,  I know I share an awful lot on a blog that is truly not supposed to be "all about me".  It is actually supposed to be a reflection on the dissolution of  this notion of "me" I, and so many of us, still cling to. Through  an ego perspective...I am breaking some social taboo. It may appear to be way too much " personal" information to share on a public domain...stuff best left in the space between the four walls of the counselling office.  Believe "me",  what is left of my ego is loud and reprimanding  every time I write like I did yesterday. Yet, here I am sharing and a deeper part of me just sighs, because it knows I am following the flow I am intended t follow.  It just happens.  And I am not standing in the way! 

A Love of Learning/ A Need to Share

There is learning in this for me and there is learning for others.  Every experience we encounter in Life is a learning opportunity and as a natural educator, whether I like it or not,  I have no choice but to share what I learn from my own little life experience if I want to grow into the person I wish to be. If I want there to be more peace, happiness, joy, love, compassion and understanding around me, I have to start with understanding this version I call "me" and  I feel like I have to share what I learn. Of course, if it is too much for the reader to hear about my silly little woes, I understand too.  There is absolutely no obligation or expectation for anyone to read what I write. I am  just here to do the living, the experiencing, the learning,  the writing , and the sharing.  The rest I leave to a higher power. 

Signature Strengths

Anyway, ironically,  honesty/integrity, I discovered in a course exercise I recently completed ,  was one of my "Signature Strengths".   So...hey, I am just strengthening a strength I already have in me by writing so openly  here. lol. Surprisingly, the strongest strength I possess, according to this exercise I did, was perspective or  wisdom...followed by spirituality, Appreciation for beauty and excellence, a Love of Learning and then honesty.  I had thought, and maybe was hoping that "kindness", was on top of this list  as I ranked it highly on my own..but maybe I am not as kind as I would like to think I am.  Maybe it is not a signature strength but it is definitely a strength I want to build on.  Compassion and kindness are very important to me. I was surprised and impressed that "wisdom" was first.  Is that my ego? lol I would have also added creativity to which I did not see a category.  

The cool thing about these signature strengths was how integral they are to our  day to day  experiences as human beings. Character strengths are said to be signature is they are essential, effortless and energizing. A question that was offered by the prof (yes these are university professors offering this  course though I don't think it counts as a credit??) : "How would your Life be if you were no longer able to express these strengths? " 

What Life Would Be Like Without Them

I felt a knot in my gut with the thought of suppressing my creativity. That is why I was so sure creativity should be up there on my list of signature strengths. If I couldn't write for thirty  days I would go nuts.  I would be lost and floundering around on this planet with no purpose.  At the same time if I couldn't continue with my spiritual practice and my learning which are so intertwined, I would shrivel up I am sure. Appreciation for beauty is also something I need to express through my writing, poetry, photography and if I couldn't be in nature surrounded by all her shapes and colours for thirty days I would be crippled by deprivation. Yeah...I need these.  But perspective/wisdom?  I don't see that as something I need.  Don't get me wrong...truth and clarity and understanding are essential to my beingness...to all of our beingness, if we know it or not... and I am on the path to achieving them  but I don't see myself as wise, I guess, nor do I "need"  to be seen as wise...that would be ego. Anyway...it was a cool exercise.

Going to encourage you to check it out for yourself. 

VIA Institute on Character/ Dr. Ryan Niemic (May 23, 2012) What Are Your Signature Strengths?   https://www.viacharacter.org/topics/articles/what-are-your-signature-strengths

Been away from the college too long...don't remember the correct APA format for citing online journals. My bad!

Heavy Heart and Higher Rock

 When my heart is overwhelmed, lead me to the rock that is higher than I.

Ps.61:2 

A Heart That is Literally Overwhelmed 

Chest pain still coming and going, not to the point yet that I need nitro but there just the same.  I don't mind the pain as much I mind that feeling of heaviness that seems to land on me and hold me down, making it hard to breathe even.  I just don't have the energy for anything.  So much to be done and I don't have the oompf.  The mind chirps in, and it is seldom kind, "Get up off your lazy butt...and clean this house that needs to be cleaned.  You have yet to clean those outside windows from the time you roofed in the fall and they are coated in tar dust. You have six pets living upstairs which means your house is full of dander and hair...and you still only vacuum once a week. Wipe down those walls, clean out your appliances and drawers. And what about the apartment downstairs...how long are you going to let it go like that?  They are both too  unwell to do it...they need you to step up and at least help them with their external environment if you cannot help them with their internal.  And really...you should be bringing meals to your loved one who doesn't get out of the house to make sure she eats everyday...once or twice a week doesn't count. And your grandchildren...are you seeing them enough, are you doing for them enough?  It doesn't matter how awkward or challenging it may be ...push, insist, fight if you have to.  They need you too. And these books you have been writing and revamping...just finish one and get it out, will you?  It is taking you way too long! And get out there and work...push yourself to work enough hours a week to earn enough to  at least begin to get yourself out of debt...man you have nine years of post secondary education and your income is below the poverty line...come on??? There is no reason for that! You have not infarcted yet  ...you have, therefore, no excuse to be this incapacitated. Two of your siblings that have had heart attacks are doing heavy manual labour again...why can't you do more? ...Surely there is something you can do to get out of this mess! " 

Listening to the Critic

After all the work ( I suppose that "work" is a bad choice of a word, lol) I do on myself to heal from my physical and mental and emotional toxins...this rampage still comes into play whenever I am reminded of this heart condition by someone else or when  my ticker starts to act up...so automatic and reflexive. I am so conditioned to "do" ...to be productive.  And that small part of me that remains, that still adheres to that conditioning, gets very, very loud and punitive whenever  my body or mind weakens and slips into a state of semi-unconsciousness...a place it can gain control in 

Man, at these times when I deserve self-compassion and a bit of nurturing : I have chest pain anywhere from a five to a 9 on the scale; I feel like there is something sitting on my chest;  I have a hard time breathing; I am dizzy, nauseous, sweaty...and I still will listen  to that inner critic. I will often actually  get off my "lazy butt" , suck up any discomfort and do whatever it tells me to do.  That is what got me in trouble when I worked...that is what led to the infamous and oh so embarrassing nose plants in front of students and colleagues. That is why I made the big decision to retire early. This inner critic would have killed me.

Not Healed Yet

And despite the fact that I had to give up the teaching I loved, a sense of social productivity and recognition and the chance for a more favorable pension just to  sub-exist financially, it was the best choice I could have made. I know that now.  I am exactly where I should be.  I have healed so much, in so many different ways,  because  of that choice. ...I have come so far  and I am so, so grateful...but ...

..but ....the moment I get chest pain or weaken physically enough to the point I cannot ignore it anymore...the moment when my external situation becomes just a bit "too"  challenging......I regress.  I am instantly pulled back to those years where I was shamed for saying I was sick when I went for help and where my physical ailments were denied and therefore the support needed was denied. That seemed to severe so abruptly the  trust I had , not only in the systems that we grow up believing are there to help us, but in the universe.  I did not see the universe as compassionate and kind, having my back...I saw it as punitive and myself as somehow deserving of that punishment.  It knocked me down and it knocked me down hard at a time when there was one family crisis after the other to deal with.  There was too much to handle at one time. It broke me...it seemed to break my life.

Fortunately, it also lead me to a deeper understanding and to a great healing that went way beyond body healing. I transcended so much.  It is amazing how much suffering has lead me to grow and expand .I have gotten through so much and gotten over so much.

And I spend a lot of my time telling myself  I am over this too, that I have transcended this but the moment I am reminded by my own symptoms or by others in general conversation about my heart condition...poof...I am back there. Instantaneous! As long as I can deny it to myself, do my heart friendly  yoga, spend my day writing  so I can remain  less physically  active so the symptoms are not as obvious, as long as I am able to "pretend" to myself and others that I am perfectly fine, and as long as I can suppress and repress that very challenging and trust breaking time in my life...I am good. 

What I fail to realize  though is that this didn't go away .  It is still very much in me.  I have  just been  repressing and suppressing...holding that pain, that severed trust,  away from my conscious awareness.  I have not dealt with it! Every symptom, every , "How is your heart?" reminds me of that. I don't want to talk about it with anyone.  I get so irritable and embarrassed when people bring it up.  I get angry if people keep asking me how I am feeling etc or Heaven forbid suggest I go into Emergency. I don't want to be reminded of how much this seemed to break me. I don't want to be reminded of that pain.  I have not healed from this.  In fact, I don't even know if I began to heal from this. I don't know how. 

From Restlessness to Heaviness

It is funny I have been  telling someone recently, how the  restlessness I have been experiencing for weeks in my core  has changed into a certain heaviness in my chest  ( that was before I had the bad angina attack a few weeks ago.) It went from a feeling of  restlessness to a feeling of being weighed down with doubt...from the core/ Solar chakra to the chest/heart chakra.  Hmm! Wonder what that is about?  Maybe I am just releasing a knot in my gut that needs to be filtered out through the heart.   Maybe this pain is resurfacing into conscious awareness so it can be dealt with once and for all. Maybe it has been in the way ...blocking the flow of positivity in and out of me? Maybe I am being asked to trust again...not in the system, but in the Universe. Maybe there is  healing happening after all. Who knows? 

I don't even know why I shared this...it just came out. 

All is well. 

Embracing Joy so We Can Embrace Suffering

 

In my approach to the practice, I focused on suffering for many years. I did not understand that generating the feeling of joy and being in touch with the wonders of Life is a way of handling suffering. So I need to recognize I may be underestimating  how powerful well-being, joy and simple happiness  can be as a response to the situation we are in globally and collectively. 

Thich Nhat Hanh 

I have been thinking about the steps I have been taking lately to understand and transcend "suffering".  It is the same direction most spiritual movements have taken over the years and it has been the direction psychology has taken to date, is it not?  Most research and emphasis in this field has been on understanding and attempting to "fix" or at least help ease emotional and mental torment.  The focus, then has been on the so called "negative " emotions which Fear would have likely been considered the ring leader.  Hmm!

Putting the Positive In Psychology 

I am now taking a course, where the psychology focus is on positive emotions rather than negative (And Love is the ring leader for this pack).  Positive Psychology  is all about understanding these positive emotions and how they can help us to attain and  maintain emotional and psychological resilience and strength. The focus is no longer on learning how to "get rid" of  or, at least, directly diminish the effect negative emotions have on our day to day experiences but on fostering, " Broadening and Building" the positive effects the positive emotions have on our lives. 

Does this new approach change my trajectory, does it take me off course? No, it beautifully supplements and enhances what I have been learning as I tap into the ancient teachings from the east. And, it offers, what so many of  us, who are held back from true freedom by our skeptical doubt, need...scientific validity. 

Skeptical Doubt and The Need for Scientific Validity? 

I am at the point that I really do not need the scientific validity...in fact if I read one more psychology research paper I will likely throw up. (No offense to those who painstakingly research, collect  and share  evidence for us doubters that prove their brilliant hypotheses' ...but "Research and Design' was my least favorite course. The sharing of data collection does not make for very interesting reading for a mind that works like mine does. The statistical analysis required...ugh!!! And Nursing Research Papers can be even worse...I know, I wrote a few. So I am challenged by such papers. I know others who thrive on such research.) 

To me this "knowing" that we are seeking, whether we know it or not, cannot be effectively collected through controlled experiments  and it can not be accurately expressed in words, ideas, thoughts or conclusions. It is beyond all that.  Still...we often have minds that say, "Explain it", "prove it", "show it". Empirical evidence comes in handy here.

Still...this Truth that we are attempting to prove true  is ancient...and very, very experiential. "Love heals"...yeah...all we have to do is feel true Love to experience its healing effects, first hand.  "Feeling happiness and joy gives us more energy", feel joy and happiness and you will know. Loving kindness and compassion improves our social connectedness and fosters a sense of safety, security and belonging in us...try it and find out for yourself.  

Embracing Joy/Embracing Suffering

Anyway...these  "ideas"  of positive emotions and suffering go hand and hand. In this lovely article, as linked below, we see how positivity can help us to embrace suffering with much more ease.  Being positive does not mean we negate the less than positive emotions.  (Eventually, if we evolve enough ,we put away our duality focus of good, bad, negative or positive) 

Also it is good to note that in the 16 exercises for mindful breathing, the Buddha strongly suggested that we generate joy and happiness prior to recognizing and embracing our pain. There is definitely a need for Positive Psychology in our approach to  well being. 

All is well. 

Brother Phap Linh ( November , 2021) Generating Joy and Embracing Suffering Plum Village App. https://plumvillage.app/generating-joy-and-embracing-suffering-in-times-of-crisis/

Mindfulness Bell.org/Thich Nhat Hanh (Winter /Spring 2010) Dharma Talk Sutra On the Full Awareness of Breathing https://www.mindfulnessbell.org/archive/tag/16+exercises+for+mindful+breathing

Plum Village App/ Thich Nhat Hanh (July, 2020) Nourishing Our Joy and Happiness/ Thich Nhat Hanh/ Short Teaching https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KsQsmzm-ys

School of  Positive Transformation

A Poised Mind

 

To a poised mind the ups and downs of Life appear trivial.

The Yoga Vasisthas

Well, I don't know about you, but I want a poised mind. I want a mind that looks out at challenge and difficulty and says, "So what? It doesn't matter.  It is all good!"  I want a mind that also  looks out at beauty and abundance and says, "So what? It doesn't matter.  It is all good." 

Does the elephant flee at the sight of oxen tracks? What is of no consequence to the wise is appalling to others. For does not the rain, gathered in the foot print of a cow, seem an ocean of incalculable area to a mosquito? 

I want to view Life like a powerful beast would and not  as a tiny vulnerable insect. Trusting the mountain of stability that lies beneath our fragile little buzzing personalities will poise our minds and help us to see how much of it really is just trivial. Good or bad, scarcity or abundance...all trivial in its duality. 

Know this Suragho, that the farther removed you are from worldly distractions, the brighter the light of God illumines you. Just so long as you are engrossed in the affairs of the world, the true principle of God will not be recognized by you.

(This site is no longer showing me what was read?  I just have the number of viewers shown in last 24...and it will allow me to see some url's and the country they come from, but that is it.  And last ten posts show no readers...though I know they have been read??)

The Yoga Vasisthas as translated by Rishi Singh Gherwal, 2021

Counting Sorrows?

 Man is fond of counting his troubles but he does not count his joys. If he counted them up, as he ought to, he would see that every lot has enough happiness provided for all. 

Fyodor Dostoevsky

10,000 sorrows? 

Hmm! It is not that I was counted my troubles over the last couple of days.  It was more like they were popping up , with hands waving in the air, wanting to be counted. lol. I felt completely overwhelmed yesterday.  I couldn't think straight, felt that tightening in my gut that I believe is my body's way of reminding me I am resisting, with every thing that popped up to say, "Here!"...(as if I was calling row call for all the things in my life I wanted to change or fix)  lol. ) There was no way I could seem to ignore each ongoing stressor as it reminded me of its presence ( it was not like they were new, either ...they have all been hanging around for a while and it is not like they were small, little everyday stressors either.  Big stuff!!).  I couldn't avert my eyes in time, couldn't shut them out or numb, distract, suppress or repress from  each one as it popped up.  I was caught up in the energy of it all and it was like being caught up in a whirl pool waiting to be spat out.  The energy around me was affected...the little things didn't "flow" nicely.  I had last minute responsibilities and appointments to squeeze into a day that I wanted to make "ticker friendly" ( heart acting up a bit); there was rushing that led to palpitations and other symptoms;  just attempting to make a visit to a loved one in need seemed to take hours...becasue of one obstacle or another; I lost the keys to the SUV that were literally in my hands and spend 30 minutes looking to no avail: I spilled things; the dog made a mess in my yoga studio; I stepped on a tack: I made 25 % on my first try at a MC test for my course ( they allow you to repeat it, thank goodness); I ran out of dog food; I forgot to eat and got weak at the vet's; I go to pay for very expensive meds for my dog and realize I don't have enough money in my account  to buy a litre of milk(I forgot it was mortgage day); I had to borrow money from my credit line ( more debt!) and from my daughter ( and I heard that voice in my head go off again, "Imagine having this type of a bank account at your age!    Imagine having to borrow from your daughter. Shame! Shame Shame!) and I came home to realize how my yard, my house and the apartment down stairs is so in need of spring cleaning at a time walking up a flight of stairs is pooping me out!  And it was just this big "UGH!!!" wanting to emerge from every cell of my body.  Too much!!! 

Where are the 10,000 Joys

The fact that I am taking a Positive Psychology Course right now, ( that I cannot afford at this time...more guilt and shame!) is quite ironic as  part of me wants to shut down completely.  It does! I don't know where to start to fix and mend what is broken, to clean up what is messy, dirty and chaotic, to help where I am called to help;  to step back where I am needed to step back; to take the steps toward finishing all that is unfinished...and to just "deal". I don't know how to even begin dealing with this let alone how I am supposed to be feeling about it.  I want to be positive, drawing on some reserved positive emotions I have stored in my tool box...I do ...but like my keys, I no longer know where that tool box is! No wonder I can't remember what I have been learning and am flunking this course I cannot afford. 

Then it hit me this morning.  Since it is just too much and I don't know where to start "changing" all that I am resisting...what if I just looked at all of it and put my big long proverbial arms around it and loved it just as it is.? 

Love it as it is?? 

Well Love according to my course definition is in reference mostly to how we feel and interact with others but I see it applying, as well, to how we feel and interact with Life. "Deep Affection"" and a "willingness to put their needs first"....can apply to how we view our life circumstance.  If I have deep affection for this energetic process called Life and I have a willingness to put Life's needs before my own petty "little me" needs...with a big "Thy will be done!" kind of thing...I would have much less whirling in my belly and much more peace.  Wouldn't I?  If I could view all this heartache in the same way I view my grand son's little face...perfect just as it is, with no need to change, or fix, or control and no need to resist or push away, with no conditions placed upon the positive emotion I feel for it...loving it when it smiles, loving it when it sleeps, loving it when it is awake screaming..wouldn't I be onto something?  Wouldn't I be feeling love of Life no matter what and therefore wouldn't I be much more positive and alive than I feel when I squirm under the weight of what my mind tells me I need to change?  Wouldn't the people I love and want to help be far better off to have that peaceful, surrendered energy around them than what they have now?   I feel in complete awe when I look at his little face, revering the gift of his presence with great gratitude.  Why can we not  look at  Life that way, no matter what circumstances we are offered, whether She is smiling at us with blessing, or screaming at us with challenge or just neutral, offering little in Her sleep??   Why can we not just let go of our resistance to it, as it is, in this moment and just let it all be? 

Well I feel right now that I cannot beat this very challenging  set of life circumstances I am encountering, have been encountering...and I am physically and emotionally tired...I feel my only choice here is to let go of that which I was clinging to in resistance and fall back into the arms of  Life That is exactly where another emotion defined by my course comes in...Serenity:  "Calm and Peaceful acceptance of one self"... I see serenity going way beyond acceptance of the little self to  all that we are...which is Life...It is acceptance of Life just as it is.  It is a letting go of resistance and an allowing of Life to be exactly as it is right here and right now. 

If I can put away my crippling need to change all this, fix all this, control any of it and just observe it all with serenity and love...wouldn't I then see the beauty, perfection and "joys" around  me that I overlook when I am counting my troubles. Would there  not be a natural arising of  more positivity ?  Wouldn't   I  and those I so want to help, be better off?

Anyway, all is well in my world.

Definitions from The School of Positive Transformation  

 

The Horns of a Little Beast

 If the mind is fully saturated with something, whatever happens to the body, will not affect the mind. The mind is even unaffected by the good and bad intentions of another, even as the firmly established mountain is not moved by the horns of a little beast. 

The Vasisthas/ Deepak Chopra

I love this passage from the Vasisthas as read by Deepak Chopra in the below meditation series. What others "do" or "don't do", what they "say" or "don't say" does not have to topple us over.  When we realize who we really are...and the mind is "fully saturated"  with that knowing...the behavior of others  is all so insignificant to our true sense of well being. I realized this again a few days ago when I was dealing with a perception of unfair treatment that led to memory of what I believed was unfair judgement of me in the past.  Like all such thought streams,  that one little "sting" rolled down the mental and emotional hill like a snowball collecting enough snow to become an avalanche. So quickly this  momentum  happens when we are on a downhill spiral. 

I caught myself ,then,  allowing and even encouraging this downhill spiral and I was able to stop it. I  was very grateful for a realization that occurred that allowed some old stored emotional stuff to be released and then I was grateful for the "greater truth"  that emerged from it all. When I was able to ask the question, "Who is hurt by all this?', I realized it was just my personality that got stung by the horns of this little beast  and not my true solid self which is as sturdy and un-penetrable, as firmly established as a mountain.  Hmm. 

Well so called "offense" comes in many forms and many intensities but we should be able to remain as firmly established as a mountain through all of it, shouldn't we?  I am asking for that mountain like stability now because a little beast may be heading this way. As tiny and insignificant  the will and behaviors of others may be, I know his horns can do physical damage to anything less than a mountain.  It is not my physical safety I am worried about even though threats were made, it is the physical and emotional well being  of my loved ones who were directly involved.  The horns of this little, suddenly released, beast have caused damage in the past and now I fear the beast is even angrier making it even more dangerous. The "threat" of nothing more than a mere future possibility are the horns butting up against me now,  and the  the fear of the unknown, the worry over the safety and well being of my loved ones is the steam he is snorting through his nostrils.  The  flesh of this beast is made up of  unconsciousness and a pain so great all that is seen is red. Will it move me? What can I do to ensure my loved one feels the firm stability of her own mountain roots through all this? 

I am reminded to trust.  All things happen for a reason.

Literally minutes before I received the news of the release, I was meditating and during that meditation I was thinking about this individual and saying, "May you heal, May you find peace, May you transform, May you be well." As soon as I finished the phone rang and I received the very shocking and unexpected news. Though I want all this for this individual  I do not want that energy that is still unhealed around my loved ones.  I don't want the littlest and most vulnerable of all to absorb any of that energy. As if this clump of flesh and overactive mind I call "me" has a say. 

There is some higher purpose at work here and instead of living in confusion, judgement and resentment for the system, and fear we can go inward to reestablish our stable mountains.

Who will be hurt? Not the Infinite Consciousness which is that which can saturate the mind and give us our mountain stability.  Everything else then becomes... just the horns of a little beast. We can find peace by calming our minds regardless of what the minds of others are thinking and doing.  

When the mind ceases its agitation all the good and  noble qualities blossom.  There is peace and purity of heart. We do not fall into doubt or error.  There is friendship which promotes the happiness of all. Worries and anxieties dry up. When the darkness of ignorance is dispelled the inner light shines brightly. Mental distractions and distress cease.  

Just as the ocean becomes calm when  the wind ceases to agitate its surface, Infinite Consciousness alone shines.

Just as space is unaffected and untouched by the clouds that float in it, this Infinite Consciousness is unaffected  and untouched by the Universe that appears in it.

Just as Light is not seen except through the refracting agent, even so Infinite Consciousness is revealed through these various bodies.  It is essentially nameless and formless but names and forms are associated to its reflection. 

All is well

Deepak Chopra and Adam Plack ( 2011) The Secrets of Healing: Meditations for Transformation. Spotify

The Universe's Greatest Gift: An Open Heart

How does your heart respond to the thought that the Universe is alive and compassionate and that with it and with other great souls of power and Light you learn through the process of co creating the reality that you experience? 

Gary Zukav, page 237

I am still working on getting that thought into my core so it replaces many of those old tired beliefs I  have in there that do not serve me, others or the world.  I do know that my heart responds very positively to it though. What about you?  How does that thought feel for you?  

As I come to the end of truly attempting to absorb, assimilate and process the teachings in this book, I find hope in this final quote  that I will leave you with: 

...As you challenge and release your fears and choose to heal, you align your personality with your soul and move toward becoming a being of the Light, fully whole and empowered, and inwardly secure. Humbleness, forgiveness, clarity, and love, all the gifts of the spirit, take root and bloom and you draw to yourself the Universe's greatest gift: human beings with open hearts. 

Gary Zukav, page 238

I choose to heal.  What about you? 

All is well!

Gary Zukav ( 1989/2014) The Seat of the Soul. New  York: Simon and Schuster

The Thinker and Thought

 What you think to be the thinker of thoughts is just one of those thoughts. What you believe to be the feeler of the feelings is just one of those feelings.  What you see as the experience of the experience, is simply part of that experience. 

Understanding non-duality can get a bit confusing especially as we make that transition from the duality consciousness where we depend on words, ideas and concepts to explain ourselves ...to the non-dual consciousness where everything just is.  For example, I keep telling myself that I am not my thoughts, I am just the observer of them.  I am not the object, I am the subject observing the object. That is where I am right now in my present understanding but at the same time I know it goes deeper than that.  Eventually we see that everything is just happening and we are that happening.  

There is no observed and the observed...there just is what is. "Observed" and "observer" are just words, ideas, concepts.  There is no subject and object...there is just now. "Subject" and "Object" are just words, ideas, concepts.  There is no knower and known...there is just the knowing.

When we first begin to "transform" or awaken we make the distinction between thought and thinker.  That is an important step.  We need to catch ourselves thinking therefore we need an observer of thought ( thinker) and thought.  Then we advance a step farther. According to Eckhart Tolle, We don't think. We are being thought...we are created by thought. Therefore, we can come to see we are thought. 

Alan Watts takes it farther by asking, " Is breathing something you do?" and the answer is "No".  We don't breathe , we are being breathed.  Breathing, like thinking and feeling, is just happening. The only time we need to make distinctions between nouns and pronouns is in our conceptual reality , those early steps of awakening and in grammar, of course...In the reality we are coming to understand, however,  that distinction is not necessary because it isn't there.  Everything just is. 

What is the point of this ramble? 

We really cannot make our awakening happen.  We really can't control our minds. Just like we really can't make our heart beat.

What we do in the final stages of transformation ...is realize that there is something bigger and greater happening around us and we are merely a part of it. The "I " can't transform us...because all the "I" is is a thought in the head.  Transformation is happening, we just need to get out of the way and let it happen. 

Note: I cannot understand this blog site.  I really have no clue what is happening here lol.  Just trusting.

All is well.

Living Happily

 It is very possible to live happily and to die peacefully.

Thich Nhat Hanh

Such a simple statement.  Seems so obvious but truth is, it isn't obvious for most of us.  We do not live happily...we live "busily" chasing after things we erroneously believe will make us happy but most of us do not live happily in this moment.  In fact most of us, do whatever we can to resist and escape this moment. 

And what about death?  Well as long as we fear death, seeing the end of our sense of 'self' in it, the less likely we are going to settle peacefully into "this good night".  

I want to live happily, I want to die, when my time comes, peacefully and I want the same for others. That is why  am taking the courses I am taking. 

All is well. 

Another Choice Based on Trust

 All of what you are doing in each day is creating what is appropriate and perfect. Apply consciousness to this process. That is trust. Although what you encounter and what you do in each moment is appropriate and perfect to the evolution of your soul, the shape of the experiences of your life is determined nonetheless by the choices that you make.

Gary Zukav, The Seat of the Soul, page 235

I am taking a couple of courses on line.  Man, my mind tells me I am foolish to spend money I simply do not have, getting farther and farther in debt to take courses that seem so abstract to others: Positive Psychology Practitioner and Mindfulness/ Meditation Trainer. Only days ago I was fussing over the fact that my meager income was not going to cover the mortgage and here I am spending money on courses. Why??

 When I seen an advertisement come up for such courses on Friday, my heart literally just skipped. I felt pulled to investigate.  I was being introduced to an amazing course offered by many wonderful  mentors I have been following for years offering exactly what I fantasized about being able to do someday, teach this stuff professionally.  And I just needed to know...how much, how much would it cost me to take this course? I went through all the advertisement information feeling the blood rushing to my face and finally there it was...the price...7700 dollars American ( which would be a heck of a lot more Canadian) and my bubble burst and flew across the room. 

Still the feeling would not go away.  A little voice within said, "This is what you want, what you wanted for so long...to be able to teach this wonderful stuff to others, to pass on this gift of mindfulness you have been lucky enough to tap into. (and maybe even get paid for it lol)  Maybe there is a more affordable course. "  So I began to search the net...and I came a cross a Canadian Institute that offered this and was convinced that was more for me.  I liked that it was Canadian and there was a course, a prerequisite to the mindfulness training,  beginning on Monday...how serendipitous that seemed. I talked to D. ...he agreed that my getting my trainer certificate  was certainly something that would benefit me and others ...it would be an investment he said and agreed to help me take on this debt. So the next day I plopped myself down to enroll in this prerequisite...but first I wanted to know what the actual trainer course was all about  and when it would be offered. I couldn't take the risk of spending money I don't have on this prerequisite if there was no guarantee for the whole training program.  I couldn't find the information I needed.

I was about to get up and walk away, and again that little voice within me said, "No! Don't give up.  Maybe there is another course.  All you really need is the paper validation that you can teach this stuff...and maybe a bit more learning and processing for you to take on this role.Keep looking".  So I did and up came an advertisement for The School of Positive Transformation.I loved the name and this feeling of calm flooded me.  I looked into it.  The Mindfulness Trainer Certification seemed very affordable, very doable.  It was put together by a University Psychology Professor who had an "awakening" and then went on to research, study and teach about mindfulness and meditation at the University level. .  I assumed I would be getting a good pairing of both scientific validation and a bit of ancient wisdom. I pushed away my fear and I enrolled.  

As soon as I enrolled an advertisement came up again , telling me that I could get $ 200 dollars off another course that would complement this one if I enrolled within an hour.    Normally, I would not fall for such an advertising gimmick...but something told me that I needed this too.  I looked into it.  It really interested me. Oh, but the cost of two courses in my financial situation...the debt I would incur.  Could I do it?  It is not like me to spend money on myself when there are so many other tings that need the little I make. I hovered with my finger of the button that said "enroll now"  ...I asked for guidance from any and every invisible entity out there that had my back...while my mind kept saying, "What about your bills? You do not like being in debt! etc etc" and my finger went down.  I enrolled.

I will tell you more about it later. lol

All is well. 

The Greater Truth To Healing

 Each time that you feel negative, stop, acknowledge that you are, and discharge it consciously. Ask what you are feeling and what is at the root of it. Go to the root of it in that instant and, as you work to pull the root, simultaneously look at the positive side and remind yourself of the greater truth that there is something spiritually profound at work, that your life is no accident, that you are under contract. 

Gary Zukav, page 233

Mind and Body Connection In Negativity 

I think the Nitro I have been taking has opened up my heart in more ways than one...It has made me very emotional over the last 24 hours. Emotions are directly related to the heart, just as the cause of my heart ailment has to do with a lot more than a few spasming coronary arteries  and an unpredictable  heart rate.  All illness has a psychosomatic connection. The mind and the body work together to create wellness or a lack of it. It is never just  the body and at the same time it is never " just in your head." You know?

My angina has a lot to do with more than an inherited physiological condition that temporarily blocks the blood flow to my heart, it has to do with a bunch of blocked emotions, as well, that close my heart. I don't just have angina in the body, I have PTSD in the mind...they go together, they work together and in order for my return to a state of true health, I need to look at both of these components at the same time. I can't heal from one without the other. I don't just need to learn to  keep my vessels open, I need to learn to keep my heart open. 

I see that connection so clearly now.  We truly need to learn to look at health and healing in a more holistic way.  I think it was Deepak Chopra that said, healing is just a return to wholeness. He also said the only true way to heal is through "enlightenment".  That is the secret to healing they are not teaching in  medical school. 

An Example 

So yesterday as I opened up to my "negativity" and my humanness I was experiencing both physical pain and emotional pain.  I found myself  very sad.  Just as there was some external triggers for the angina (over exertion the day before), there were some triggers for the emotional pain.  I was reminded by some very familiar (which was also familial, coming from the same blood line) treatment I perceived, of  the way I felt between the ages of 16-20  which were very challenging post traumatic years for me. For some reason I could not understand then, I felt very unworthy during those years of friendship from particular people, very undeserving of their generosity  and responsible for making these people self-sacrifice in order to be with me.  It felt as if these individuals  were so evolved they were going  out of their way to befriend me at great cost to themselves.  They were saving me when I was no fun to save. They were often victim.  I was often villain. What they gave me, I did not deserve and what I gave back, it was made clear, was never near enough. 

Healing Release

A lot of that "belief" came from me but now I realize it was externally reinforced in a subtle way,  as well. It struck me so hard as I was driving home from a visit yesterday, a visit I struggled for two weeks to get, of that connection.  I felt a ton of stuffed emotions from those years and from that erroneous belief I had clung to until then pouring out of me.  The Nitro was unblocking the damn. It felt terrible but it also felt very good to witness these emotions surfacing.  I was able to see it happening, to understand it and I felt great compassion for my younger  self  for the pain she experienced then, and I felt great compassion for my adult self and the pain I am experiencing now. I know I will eventually be free of all this pain the more I release and let go.  I also know I will transfer this compassion eventually to the others in this picture but for now it feels good to simply  nurture these feelings and myself. 

Something Spiritually Profound At Work

So as the clusters of chest pain continue to come and go, so do these stuffed memories and the attached feelings. My heart is opening, allowing for release. For the most part, I am feeling more "enlightened" than I was a day ago. I know the personality I identified with back then was broken and far from perfect just as she needed to be to get me here to this more evolved personality  and hopefully someday beyond both. She is responsible karmically for all her choices and she made some less than skillful ones, for sure.  No doubt she did things that caused pain and challenge for others, no doubt what she gave was not perfect  and I feel bad for that but even still...she had a big heart, was honest and kind, and very worthy of friendship. Clarity shows me that any opinion of her that others held was theirs not mine and any choices they made to "sacrifice for her" was theirs as well. She didn't know better then to see it all clearly, to believe differently and that's okay...all part of the process to get me here now. 

The Greater Truth

And this "me" that felt hurt yesterday, is really not anything but a thought in my head, right?  Who felt hurt?  The more I merge with the higher part of me, the more I go deeper into the vertical plane and the less hurt I feel from the horizontal. It all seems so very petty and insignificant. 

I share again in hope that it will help others to trust enough so they can  open their heart and truly heal. 

All is well.

Gary Zukav (1989/2014) The Seat of the Soul. New York; Simon and Schuster

Deepak Copra and Adam Plack (2011) The Secret of Healing: Meditation for Transformation. Spotify

Humanness Awakens

 Trust allows you to call forth your negativities in order to heal them. ...Do not despair because your humanness awakens.

Gary Zukav, page 232

My humanness awoke today...not that it was ever in deep sleep lol...but it  really woke up cranky to remind me, "Hey girl...you are still very much human no matter how you try to see yourself as beyond your body's limits. The body  doesn't go away, no matter how evolved you tell yourself you are becoming." 

I have been dismissing my body's symptoms again, convincing myself in more ways than one,  that my mind and my new energy level was so strong now that I did not have to succumb to my body's demands. I have been doing more exercise, more chasing around, swinging around, carrying around  and playing with my grand-kids.  I  have been moving heavy furniture and helping my daughter to move here and there over the last few months...lifting heavy boxes, jumping up onto the backs of trucks or trailers with them...I have even  been doing hard physical labor that would make an athlete sweat, like helping with the roofing months ago.  I have been shoveling when there was snow. I have been doing so much more than I have been used to doing. I mean I would get the symptoms during the exertion but ws able to take my mind away from them...I did not allow them to "scare me into stopping".  It was so cool how I stopped being afraid of them. The fear always made it worse. 

Today, after I spent the evening yesterday  helping my daughter move, I ended up with a bad dose of angina...worse than I had in a while.  I had a lot of Shortness of Breath and chest pain when I was lifting and carrying yesterday but I convinced myself  that it was okay...all good....not going to stop me.  But as is the way with me...I usually feel worse the next day...So as I was sitting with my tea this morning,  there it came, making its  breath taking appearance... chest pain...that went from a 5 to an 8 in a matter of minutes. I reached for my nitro, remembering that it was way expired.  I had not gotten  a new prescription becasue I had convinced myself I was all over this nonsense, I was done with Nitro and Emergency Room visits etc.  Man I had myself convinced. As I held that bottle with the 2019 expiry date on its bottom that I had used a few months ago during the last attack...I thought it worked then but would it still work now? I also  thought, if this doesn't work, I will have to go in to the ER and the thought of having to do that made the pain go to 9. I literally wanted to throw up at the thought of having to face all that crap again. .  I was sweating all over. I even hesitated to take the Nitro  becasue I didn't want to discover that it didn't work.

Then out of nowhere I had this "feeling" ...that kind of said, "Trust! Your body needs this.  It will work!" I took a hit and within five minutes I was feeling as right as rain.  So much relief and gratitude filled me I cried. After my past experiences, I have had great difficulty trusting my body symptoms, listening to them.  I felt empowered when I was able to convince myself that I could talk myself out of them or ignore them. That was false empowerment, I suppose.

True empowerment comes when we embrace all of our humanness, all of our negativity.  It is true that my evolving has lead me past my fear of death which is absolutely wonderful!!!  I accept that if my time is going to come soon, it is going to come. And that is one of the Five Remembrances from the Buddhist, "Subject of Contemplation" Sutra:  I am of the nature to die.  There is no way to escape death. So without this fear my experience of illness has a totally different context than it had before.  But that does not mean I am exempt from illness, that my body will not get sick or complain as it is beginning to do again as I write this.  Though I do not want to dwell on labels or specific disorders, knowing that is not who I am, I have diagnosed my body's condition long before I was actually diagnosed by a cardiologist. (I was diagnosed and am being treated for)  My body is challenged by something called, "Coronary Vasospasm" ...the arteries that feed my heart spasm  if I exert myself too much, or get too emotional or stressed, resulting in a decreased blood flow to the heart muscle which is technically Angina.  For me...it comes in clusters...I may not have any pain for months but once it starts I will have several attacks over a few days. I believe this is a familial condition and responsible for heart attacks in other siblings of mine, and possibly for the Sudden Cardiac Death of my older sister. I have been struggling with this for almost 30 years now and have yet to have a heart attack. So I guess that means my body is doing whatever it can to get me to pay attention so that doesn't happen. I can trust the pain when it tells me "Stop! Rest!  Take Nitro!" 

Anyway, I share that because we all need to remember the second of the Five Remembrances , not just the Third.  No...we should not live in fear of illness or death but we must face the reality of it.  We are not our bodies but our bodies are part of the package of our experience as human beings. We should not despair when our humanness awakens. 

I am of the nature to have ill health. There is no way to escape having ill health

At the same time we need to remember we are so much than these bodies, the only parts of us that succumb to illness and death.

I need another shot. 

All is well! 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Upajjhatthana_Sutta#:~:text=The%20Upajjhatthana%20Sutta%20(%22Subjects%20for,fragility%20and%20our%20true%20inheritance.

Happy Mother's Day

 Happy Mother's Day to all mothers everywhere! Being a Mother has little to do with genetic links, I am learning, and everything to do with Love. Have a wonderful day! 

All is Well! 

Just Taking It Step by step

Use all your worldly connections, but not out of fear or panic. Do what you need to do on your end. Your choice comes in knowing appropriate timing, clear motivation and trust.  Allow intuition to guide your timing.  Take it inside, ask how you feel, then move forward. Allow yourself to experience what it is to learn step by step the freedom that comes from being unattached to the outcome, but operating from an empowered heart. 

Gary Zukav, The Seat of the Soul ( 2014, Simon and Schuster), page 231

Readership dropping down below five a day.  I hear people around me, who read this, saying...it isn't you...it is the site...take your content and go to another site.  Who knows?  I may do that someday.  I truly appreciate what this site has given me though.  It has given me a platform on which to wake up in semi-public, at least. It has also given me the privacy I longed for in the beginning until I got my feet wet...and then it offered the slow introduction into society that I felt compelled to make.  It has given me what I needed to "come out of the waking up closet" . I am grateful. 

My supporters are right, too.  It isn't "me" that is responsible for the low readership, just as it isn't "me" that is responsible when the hits are up to 500 a day ( as they were only once or twice lol) I mean, it isn't "me" that is coming out here but a Deeper Self in which we are all a part of.  This is so far beyond anything "me" would be able to do or even want to do.  I know after I write that and it is read by another there will be a lot more  bouncing off this page.lol Still it is what it is.

I lay back, put my feet up here, writing what I write, taking it step by step, guided by intuition  and just wait for the flow to take me home.  Where it will stop along the way, I haven't a clue.  Certainly going to hit some very low water that I will have to pole my way through, and some very rough water that I will just have to pray my way through. I will take it as it comes. I may also hit a fork somewhere up ahead and be asked to take another tributary.  With Grace and Intuition's help ,I will make that decision then.   For now, I am just going to go with the flow of this, regardless of how many readers are visiting or sticking around.  All good. 

All is well in my world. 

Grace and Flow

 Grace is uncontaminated conscious Light. It is Divinity. Prayer brings grace and grace calms you. ...Grace is the tranquilizer of the soul. With grace comes a knowing that what you are experiencing is necessary. It calms you with a sense of knowing. 

Gary Zukav, page 230-231

Looking for that Uncontaminated Conscious Light 

I guess it is Grace I am looking for when I pray, when I intend, when I test the Universe with one of my many challenges and attempt to "manifest" something. (That word "manifest" still just does not feel right when I write it or say it).  I want that peaceful, tranquilizing effect  that comes with knowing that all is in order, that all is happening exactly as it is meant to, that all I have to do is lay back and allow the flow of Life to take me where it is taking me. How easy and uncomplicated  Life would be for all of us if we operated by this uncontaminated [by conditioning] conscious Light. 

Struggling Against the Flow

So many of us resist this flow, don't we, because we do not trust it?  We believe we know better than Life how "this thing called living" should go. We panic as we are  pulled down the river ,banging into every rock and every jagged edge of the shore, getting lost in Eddies, grabbing for whatever we can to gain "control" of that which we were never meant to control.  Some of us even swim against the current , fighting it, falsely believing that we know the best direction we should be in and it isn't the direction the flow is taking us. How exhausting that is, when all we have to do is lay back and relax into the flow, into the present moment, exactly as it is.  

Lay Back and Relax

One of the greatest lessons I have ever received came from a River Guide on a white water rafting trip I went on years ago with friends. "If you fall in, don't fight the current.  Just lay back with your feet up and let the river take you home."  

The river is taking us all home but too often we let the Fear from the mind convince us we need to do whatever we can to stop our being pulled by this  flow or to at least control it. 

As I write here now, open and exposing my deeper Self in ways that many are uncomfortable with, becoming as transparent as the water itself, writing  about this "invisible something" that is responsible for the flow, I am learning to lay back and just go with it.  My ego, my personality, my mind, my "little me"...however you want to describe that entity within us that is hell bent on gaining power and control on this horizontal plane, ...wants me to kick, and flail, and turn around and swim the other way....especially when I hit those inevitable  patches of  choppy white water   Yet the more I pray for the ability to trust and be led, the more I repeat, "Thy Will be done," and  the more I find myself here, laying back with my feet up as Grace takes me peacefully  home, the more I relax  into "what is".  Oh I still panic and flail about from time to time reaching for the shore; sometimes I feel lost out in the middle of nowhere with nothing but choppy water to deal with ; I still have no idea where I am being taken  but the resisting is becoming less and less. I am actually starting to truly relax and enjoy the ride. (Thanks to Grace)  I guess, I am learning to trust after all.

Relax into the present moment. Do what you need to do in the present moment. Yours is not to worry about that which we call the future. 

Hmmm! All is well.

Gary Zukav (1989/2014) The Seat of the Soul. New York: Simon and Schuster

Trusting or Doubting?

 Try looking at life as a beautifully well-organized dynamic. Trust the Universe. Trusting means that the circumstance you are in is working toward your best and most appropriate end. There is no when to that.  No end to that. It is.

The last chapter of Gary Zukav's book, The Seat of the Soul, is entitled Trust. I think it is the last chapter for a reason...because Trusting  is the most important and probably most challenging thing we humans have to learn to do while here.  Skeptical doubt is also listed as the last hindrance to our waking up for a reason.  Most of us, would you not guess, are plagued by doubt that Life has our back or that we are worthy enough to receive what she has to offer?  We doubt anything  we cannot see or understand as well.So how then can we trust that there is some "invisible""formless"  energy supporting us?  How can we trust the Universe then?  How can we trust that the crap we are going through now actually has a purpose for our greater good?

Trusting is Challenging

I find trusting absolutely a bit of a challenge.  Skeptical doubt is one of my biggest blocks to waking up, for sure.  Why? Maybe not for the usual reasons. 

Doubting and Manifesting

People might tell me that the only reason why I don't have the easiest set of circumstances showing up in my life...is because I am not "manifesting " correctly.  I am not "manifesting correctly", they may go on, because I am operating under the low vibration energy of doubt instead of the high energy vibration of trust.   I don't even like going there.  I have issues, as you may know, with the term "manifest".  I don't want to put my energy towards  intending "things" (that I erroneously believe will bring happiness)  to pop up into my life out of nowhere.  I want to put my energy towards learning, expanding, evolving and awakening to a higher level of understanding...an understanding that will bring a peace that passes all means of understanding ( if that isn't confusing lol).  I truly know that things or  circumstances will not bring happiness or unhappiness...so though I certainly wouldn't turn my back on a better financial situation, I am not putting all my energy towards "desiring" that because I know how unskillful that is.  

I put a lot of my energy towards learning to accept and find peace with the circumstances I have now.  Does that mean I don't trust the Universe enough to manifest a better Life?  I think it simply means that I see that  the impersonal and busy Universe, has bigger and more important things to look after, than the ever changing  personal woes of a mind created entity I call "me". I am convinced now that my level of peace is determined , not by the events happenings around "me" or to "me", but by the state of my mind.  I want to be able to operate through Life with a calm. clear and peaceful mind.   If I had to manifest anything that is what I would manifest.  At the same time this process of developing or "retraining" "my" mind to be calm, clear and peaceful  is a process I thoroughly enjoy so I am not asking for a big "Poof!...Your mind is healed" kind of thing from the Universe, either. 

But I do want to trust  the Universe! I want to trust that regardless of how challenging my Life circumstances may "seem'...(again the degree of challenge I experience is simply a result of the state of my mind)....that it is benefiting me at some level I may not understand  and/or the world in some way.  That it is doing some good.  I could probably suffer through anything if I "knew" that any challenging thing I went through was serving a higher purpose.  Knowing that is trusting,  right? 

So that is what I "intend" , pray for, want to manifest: peace of mind and the ability to trust the Universe/ Life absolutely. ( which would bring more peace, wouldn't it?) 

Challenging the Universe to Prove that it  can be trusted. 

But  in my practicing and learning to trust, I may experiment with superficial things that the personality wants.  ( and yes the personality wants these things...big time!...even if the higher part of me knows they are not needed) I might say..."I want to trust you Universe...give me a sign!  If you want me to continue writing in a certain genre, give me a publication in that genre."   Now when I get that publication, I don't instantly trust.  It is still a struggle...I have years and years of doubt to get through. I might say, "Well maybe I need more than one publication to prove that."  

I may also experiment with things like money.  "I want 10,000 dollars by the end of such and such a time, in order to know you have my back."  If I don't get the money I will hear myself  saying, "See! The Universe doesn't have my back or I am not worthy enough!" Now I may get the 10,000 dollars, like I did once  a couple of months after my chosen time...and my doubt tendency may say to me, "Well it didn't come when you said, so that is not a sign."  Or maybe the "thing" I ask for comes in another form and in a way I was not expecting it  to and I  totally by pass it.   It gets tricky.  even clear signs  do not always dispel the doubt or foster trust.  even when some of these signs are pretty clear.    Then I kind of feel I am getting off my true path by "playing with this manifesting possibility" and for "testing and challenging the Universe"  when I know none of these things are truly important. Its fun but these games will not bring me to my true goal of peace. 

So now what I am trying to do,  (if "try" is  something we can apply to the process of  trusting...it should be more of a falling into and a letting go, right?)   Anyway...what I do now is simply pray: "Please help me to trust that which I cannot see, so that I can find peace in my present situations, regardless of how they appear,  knowing that they are taking me and others to a higher place.  Let me surrender to the "Thy Will be done!" mantra. 

I did let go and surrender before in my desire to trust the Universe. ...in my desire to be taken to a higher place.  It certainly didn't result in abundance for the personality, but now that I think about it,  it did help me to trust more. 

This is what I wrote at that time: 

Ego Hisses

whispers from that place of secrets
become screams in my ears
twisting, turning messages that
express the truth I fear
I suddenly decide to listen
to stop, head stilled to the side
while I decipher all the wisdom
and put away my pride

ego hisses at me with its
desperate pleading cries
to ignore the truths I’m offered
calling them foolish, new age lies
it warns me of the darkness
the desolation I will face
if I go forward with these directions
and leave this warm, familiar place

yet I find myself moving onward
pushing ego’s carcass to the floor
and taking slow, hesitant steps
I move through the open door

I don’t know what I will be facing

what is on the other side
but I know the door has been opened
and it is open very wide.

Dale- Lyn, Nov 2013

Working On it. All is well! 

Release your specifications and say to the Universe, "Find me where you know I need to be." Let them go and trust that the Universe will provide, and so it shall. Let go of all.  Let your higher Self complete its task. 

Gary Zukav (198/2014) The Seat of the Soul. New York: Simon and Schuster

"Can I help you?"

 

Even if you only help one person, and even if that one person is yourself, then what you are doing is worth it.

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Readers are down again, according to statistics and Google analytics.  Well they were always down according to Google analytics...but now I see numbers are ranging below ten a day on my site.  That could simply mean that the Blogger site has reinforced its defensive walls and only the true and loyal readers are now getting through.  That, of course, would also mean  there has always been only a handful of true and loyal readers from the beginning. Thank you good and loyal readers. :) 

Google Analytics tells me ...  that I am not attracting or keeping new readers. It seems that very few are  interested in what I have to say or how I say it.  Most, besides the few readers who find exactly what they were looking for here,  pop in to my obscure and hard to find little shop in the middle of nowhere only becasue they stumbled upon it accidentally on their way to somewhere else or were  directed here by a  little hand painted sign,  with its aging letters fading,  stapled to some post on a back country road. 

Curiously,  readers  open the door.    The bell rings, they step in over the threshold  but before I have a chance to say, "Can I help you?", most visitors just shrug their shoulders, and walk away.  I assume that they are instantly  hit with the musty smell  of "old" as they look around to see surrounding them so many chipped and worn out things in the form of thoughts and ideas that make them feel uncomfortable. They might  choke on the dust or be overwhelmed by the clutter. My eclectic collection is not fresh, and new and modern.  It doesn't distract, it reminds.  It doesn't numb, it  brings up memories and feelings that  they have spent their life times trying to forget.  

My shop is not for everyone.  Only a few will enter, seeking exactly what they are hoping I offer here.  Some will find it, more won't. 

Hmmm!  Should I turn off the lights, flick the switch on the door, and put a "Closed" or "Out of Business" sign in the window?  Without customers, a shop is really not a worthwhile business venture , is it?  Yet, my idea of success differs from that of  other people. 

 I know  if that bell keeps ringing there is hope, isn't there, that at least one person will find what they are looking for?  And if one person finds a little something here that makes their life more bearable, more meaningful in some small little way...then I will consider my shop a success. Besides, I like being here, surrounded by words, old, old thoughts and ideas.  I learn something new everyday.  And that  Light  that streams  in from the front window is perfect, warming me, inspiring me and encouraging me ( whoever this "me" is) to go on. Whatever this shop offers is healing.   For that reason, I will leave the "Come in, We are open" sign in the window and I will continue to ask, "Can I help you?" whenever someone walks in through the door. 

All is well.