A Little More On Wanting Special Relationships

You are afraid of this because you believe that without the ego, all would be chaos. Yet, I assure you that without the ego, all would be love.
ACIM-T-15: V:1:6-7

(I played with my camera yesterday, for the first time in a long time...yeah!!!  I call this: Awkward First Dinner Date!)

Still Looking For A Soul Mate?

Still pondering over the difference between what Uell S. Anderson and The Secret teaches and that which Buddhism and other dogma teaches. We talked a little bit yesterday  about the wanting and seeking to manifest a soul mate. Both approaches teach that we create the world we see with our minds, we therefore manifest "things" with our minds as well. So can we really manifest a soul mate by watering that seed in our store consciousness? Probably???

Is This What You Really Want?

The question I posed again and again was...is that what we really, really want or is this one person, we seek to make us complete, something the mind-made self seeks to manifest into our experience?  If so...we do know that is an ego desire...not a spiritual one, don't we?  And we do know, by now, where ego desires take us?

The desire for special relationships, ACIM and Eckhart Tolle teach, is an egoic thing...meant to end or diminish the sense of suffering derived from feeling incomplete.  When we assume another person, outside ourselves, has the ability to fulfill us and make us happy...we are setting ourselves up for more suffering.  What a horrendous, heavy and impossible mission  to dump on another being in this world...to make them responsible for our sense of value and worth. This is not Love...in the truest sense of the word...it is egoic need. 

So is it wrong to want a soul mate or to be in a special relationship with someone?

Though there is nothing right or wrong about a special relationship we need to realize that  the idea and expectation we place upon them feed the ego not the Self . That means, they can be used as a tool for temporary egoic satisfaction and also a weapon of fear that keeps us bound to ego. It can keep us attached to this idea, that we are separate "little me's"  in a dangerous , lonely world.  In order to make it worthwhile, we need another( or something outside ourselves) to complete us.

True Love extends way beyond the ego and this idea of "me", and  "my" and "mine". True Love is liberating and non selective.  Ego love is very selective, conditional and binding.  Special relationship ideology  can bind us to ego rather than bring us to Self...if relationships are built on a need to make one complete.  We are already complete, according to Buddhist and other well known doctrine.

So we just need to be careful when we place all our attention on watering seeds in our moment in order to grow or manifest future romance in the future . It is not the "romance" and ego's version of love you really, really want...it is Love.

I wrote about this in 2017.  Check this out: http://www.aquarianonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/11/Enlighten-Up-with-The-Aquarian-Winter-2017-issue.pdf.
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Healthy relationships are relationships that are built on Love not need or fear. The opposite of love is fear, but what is all encompassing can have no opposite. ACIM-T-Introduction When we love without ego, we love big!

All is well!

ACIM

Eckhart Tolle (July 2008 )  One -Sided Relationships.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V3miuaOWsj8