Thinking is difficult, that is why most people judge.
Carl Jung
I am thinking right now about how to transform fear into compassion and understanding and I am wondering if that is the best way to diffuse violence? Isn't that what the great masters taught?
Why am I thinking about such a thing? ...Because my gut and my chest are tight with fear. I see what Eckhart Tolle would describe as a "pain body" in someone that is so reactive right now and I have evidence of how it can so easily take over the body and mind it is in. I see how this completely destructive and out of control unconscious energy is projected out onto others, more specifically my loved one. What do I do with this evidence?
Oh I know about these things, I do. I have information from others, experts, professionals, the statistics showing how "dangerous" this unconscious person is...how the "victim' needs to be protected and made safe away from this "evil". I completely agree with the fact that the person being projected on must be kept safe from the unpredictability of pain dominated unconsciousness...I do.. and am doing everything in my power. But...are we, as a society, thinking clearly in our approach to the person that is acting so unconsciously or are we merely judging?
Most of us would deem this person as "the evil villain "? Our fear for the "victim" be they potential or actual pushes the offender away and our judgement creates monsters out of them, ostracizing them, punishing them instead of helping them. Does fearing, hating, pushing away, punishing, ostracizing and villainizing this person make things better? Or does it make it worse? Is there really a victim and a villain here? Or is this what our judgement is doing? Are we thinking clearly , skillfully, wisely in our our judgmental approach. Yes by all means ...we need to do what ever we can to protect those that are being harmed or could be harmed by such unconscious energy...no one deserves that....but we do see, right, that what is directing all this is suffering ? Beneath this unconsciousness is pain and a small victim who too was hurt in such a way... Aren't all parties actually innocent at the core? Does not every human being deserve compassion and forgiveness for what they do.
This person is responsible and accountable for their actions as we all are. None of us have the right as human beings to inflict pain on others because we are in pain. We are responsible for what we do with this pain. And we all have pain and in some way inflict pain on others...as we are doing with these adult survivors who act out in such ways. We can hate what they do...but does it do any good to hate them, as our judgments do? Can we offer help, as a society, for them as well so that they begin the slow painful process of recovery? Wouldn't we do more good to recognize this shadow self all of us have inside us in one form or another so we can recognize it in another in the early stages so we can intervene and break these vicious cycles of violence in our world.
Instead of living with fear based judgement, maybe we can think about this issue a little more deeply...see all of it in its complexity and once again get to the root cause of all suffering...and the solution for it...Love not fear.
I am working very hard to let go of my judgement and to look at this situation with the eyes of compassion and love.
All is well
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