I offer you peace. I offer you love. I offer you friendship. I see your beauty. I hear your need. I feel your feelings. My wisdom flows from the Highest Source. I salute that source in you. Let us work together for unity and love.
Gandhi
Well Gandhi's request above is the highest form we can hope to achieve in relationships and should be the vows uttered between most brides and grooms, between parents and children, between true friends between Guru and student, or between anyone in what the Course would refer to as a "special relationship".
There is so much to consider about relationships and I am going to write more about this in the near future. ...but the big point we need to remember is that there is a deeper and higher purpose for relating other than what the romantic comedies on Net Flix teach us. Our happiness and satisfaction in life is never really about the other person, nor is the happiness we attain in a relationship ever really about what the other person does or doesn't do.
Huh?
Well when we are still trapped by ego identification and the needs of "little me" we look to the other "special" people in our lives to meet our "needs" . In order to meet our needs they must meet or match the model we have of how they should be, based on our conditioned judgements and preferences. We are happy and in love, possibly believing we are reveling in the glow of our "soul mates", when they are fitting beautifully into the model...but as soon as they do or say something that is not a part of our model, or even opposed to it...we freak... They and what they do become wrong, or bad. We have relationship conflict. Many of us will even end our relationship at this point because it doesn't feed ego and its idea of how it should be. The problem is not the other person and what they do or don't do ...it is our need for models based on preferences and what we think this other person should be doing for us that is the problem.
Ram Dass, in the below linked podcast, reminds us we are all just " mechanical run off of old karma"trying to find our way back to Oneness ( whether we know it or not). In order to work off our own karma, find our way back to the Highest Source, we need to let other people manifest into who they are in their own way...not in the way it suits "me" . Allowing, accepting and honoring the divinity in each person despite their mechanical run off has little to do with them and everything to do with us.
Hmm! So much more to say here but I will leave it at that.
All is well in my world.
Ram Dass/ Be Here Now Network ( Sept, 2016) Episode 17- The Yoga of Relationships. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CJXTyfa-cy4&t=986s
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