Stop Resisting!!

 Stress only happens when you resist life's events. If you are neither pushing life away, nor pulling it toward you, then you are not creating any resistance.  You are simply present.  
In this state, you are just witnessing and experiencing the events of life taking place. 

Michael Singer, pg 149

So what is the answer to every so called "problem" we have? 

Stop Resisting!!!

If you want to be happy and to stay happy...stop resisting!

If you want to have uncomplicated loving relatonships with others...stop rsisting!

If you want a body that is free of stress induced illness...stop resisting!

If you want a mind that is centered, peaceful and calm...stop resisting!

If you want life to get easier for you...stop resisting!

If you want to advance spiritually ....stop resisting!!! 

Events are not Problems

The events you are experiencing right now are not problems.  The people you are confronting right now are not the problems.  The tension or full blown illness you are experiencing in your body right now...is not the problem The thoughts, feelings and energy  that are wanting to pass through you right now are not "problems" either.

Resistance is the Problem

The only problem is your resistance to what is! Because of some past memory and emotion you have stuffed  in the past that is now jammed up in you like the water behind the Hoover Dam and because of your incessant fear and determination to avoid disturbing that water and keeping the dam of your psyche  functionally holding it back...you resist. You resist the energy of those particular events Life is presenting you with that you fear will not fit neatly in your mind, that will cause the dam to collpase and the torrents of water on the other side to come pouring through.  So as the events of today  begin to drip and ripple inside you...you use your mighty all powerful will to say, "Stop!"  You resist them and you push them back.

Resistance actually causes more problems. These things you are pushing back  do not leave you they just back up creating more tension, more pressure and more liklihood that the dam of yours will burst open.  Hmm! 

So the boss lays you off.  Now to most of us that is a very real problem and it would seem normal and natural to be upset by that...to go beyond our committment of happiness no matter what. To see this event as the cause of our disturbance.

But the lay off is not the problem.  

What happened  is you resisted the lay off and the energy that goes with it because you could not find a place where it would fit neatly in your jammed up energy reserves without causing a major disturbance.  So instead of letting ( or being able to let) the energy of the lay off to just flow through you ...you backed up the energy with your resistance  until it caused even more pressure on you.  

It takes a lot of energy to do this...so not only do you risk exploding with the built up energy you accumulate with every thing of Life's you  resist , you risk "burning-out" .  

Events are not the problem.  Life is not the problem. Resisting Life then is not the solution ...it is the problem!

Letting Go, Relaxing and Releasing

Instead of resisting and building up tension...we can use life to let go of all this stuffed and stored energy from the past.  We start taking the dam a part piece by piece and we allow all the "stuff" on the otherside to be released. Then we can allow  the energy of this moment to pass through us. We can be  there fully for what is right in front of us, right here, right now. 

So when we do get laid off...we  have room in there to allow all that energy to pass through us.  We feel the shock, the grief, the loss without resisting or clinging to any of it. We just let it pass though.  We definitely deal with the situation but only after we let the energy pass through.  

We do not "react" by beating up the boss or spray painting a "F...u" on our old desk...We relax and lean into the reality of what is, "I got laid off" and we allow the  energies to pass through. Then when we are clear and centered, we can decide what has to be done.  If we prevent the energy from  passing through......we will only add more tension. We will not be "clear" enough to deal with the lay off effectively. 

Events are not problems...the mind makes them into "problems".  The Lay off is not the problem. Life is just unfolding in front of you  as Life is meant to do.  Things come and things go.  It really isn't anything personal.  

Observe your mind in challenging situations to watch as it makes everything that happens around you  a personal problem. If we do not have the awareness to detach from it and step back and watch it unfolding, the lay off will be about the "little me" and  resistance will come into to play....creating a problem.

You will be surprised to find that in most situations there's nothing to deal with except for your own fears and desires.  

We need to stop resisting Life and simply learn to accept it as it is. 

Learn to stop resisting reality, and what used to look like stressful problems will begin to look like stepping stones of your spiritual journey. 

Hmmm!  Something to think about!

All is well!

Michael Singer ( 2007) the untethered soul. New Harbinger/Noetic Books