...Who would replace their fearful toys with joyous games, which teach them that the game of fear is gone.
-ACIM-w-153: 12:2
Have you ever really imagined what your life would be like if there was no fear in it? Fear, we know, comes with many faces including a bit of worry to down right panic for one reason or another. It comes because we perceive a "threat" out there or within. I see it as an emotion that dominates most of our lives. So aware, am I, of the power of fear in me and around me that I was inclined to write a book about it.
Just imagine...what it would be like...to be afraid of nothing! To know for certain you were safe, protected, loved without condition. What would it be like if you didn't have to do anything to ensure that safety...you just had to be? You didn't have to draw lines in the sand, put on heavy layers of armour, build walls around yourself, or invest in weapons of attack ( defense always leads to attack eventually)? You just had to be.
What would we do then if fear didn't stop us? How would we feel then? How would we approach life then? How would we grow? And most importantly, how would we look upon one another?
The world would be a different place , wouldn't it? We would be different...there would be nothing left for ego to manipulate us with, would there? There would be no more struggling to own and possess, no more clinging, no more protecting, no more fighting, and no more war.
The perfect world is one without fear. According to ACIM fear will only go away when we put down our defenses. With no defenses, there is no fear of attack and with no attack, there is no need for fear or defense.
Will we ever be able to do that? It starts with one person at a time. Are you ready to undo your armour and put down your shield? I think I am.
All is well in my world.
Thursday, May 31, 2018
Wednesday, May 30, 2018
My Little apple Tree
My Little Apple Tree
If peace can have a scent, it takes me to your side
where leaf is green and flowers bloom and bees so happily abide.
You stand so like an angel with branches stretched like wings toward the sky
and wanting Heaven too, I lean against your steady bark and quietly I sigh.
I am lost in the sweet presence that makes the blossoms escape from your tiny tips
and I close my eyes and feel It as "thank you" slips from my lips.
You teach me what I need to know without useless word or thought;
You show me what I am and you show me what I'm not.
I breathe you in and when I do I breathe in all that I could ever be.
Somehow I find the truth I seek, in you,
my little apple tree.
my little apple tree.
-Me...
©Dale-Lyn (Pen) (May 30, 2018)
That came out of me really, really fast lol.
Tuesday, May 29, 2018
"My" or "Mine."
Language is power, in ways more literal than people think. When we speak we exercise the power of language to transform reality.
-Julia Penelope
Still hung up on the language thing. I am creating another series. Everything I think or do seems to come in clumps or clusters...even the chest pain lol. Go figure. I cannot seem to switch gears until all that topic energy is expended. So bear with me.
Possessive Pronouns
I am thinking about the use of possessive pronouns(or what some would argue are 'determiners' ) . I am looking at how we erroneously use 'my', and 'mine' and how that effects ( I mean.."affects" ...keep getting those words mixed up lol) our belief systems, and therefore our lives.
We get caught up in phrases like; "My body", "My foot" "My house" "My job" "My children" "My friend" "My man" "My love" My God' "My pain" "My story" "My thoughts" "My feelings" "My belief" "My country" "My race" "My gender" My depression" "My illness" "My life"...it goes on and on.
When we put "my" or "Mine" in front of something or beside something we take ownership or possession of that thing and we create an invisible border around us and it. We separate the my and mine from the "we' "us" and "our" dimensions of our world, don't we?...
These types of pronouns lead to a sense of loneliness and isolation, do they not...like we are cut off from others all because we took possession of this thing.
Not only that ...that possession implies a need to protect and defend. If we need to protect and defend, we therefore must believe that something outside our "my bubble" will attack us to get at that thing. Therefore there must also be a "they" and a "them" and a "their"..and 'they' must be the enemy or at least a potential threat. Wow! Whoever knew pronouns could be more complicated than the grammar rules made them.
More separation, more need for defense and attack and more fear is induced by these little words used in our English language.
We can change them though. We can start replacing them with more neutral words, can we not?
Neutralizing the Possession and Attachment Need
What is the most neutral word in the English language...the one I keep incorrectly typing as 'teh' for some reason lol..."THE". What if we stopped owning everything and starting looking at things of the physical world as rentals or loaners instead of something that belongs to us? What if I looked at my arm when it was hurt and said "The arm is bothering me" instead of saying "My arm hurts".
I detach right? I detach. And freedom requires detachment. Without the "my" and "mine" I no longer have to defend it or protect it. I no longer have to define it or explain it. It just is the arm attached to the body I am using while I am here. Total different context, total different frame of reference...leading to a totally different way of approaching life.
"The body has pain." detaches me from my ownership of the pain, thus eliminating my need to defend and or attack for it.
I am losing "the house", sounds so much better than I am losing "my house" , doesn't it? I am just losing something that doesn't technically belong to me...it was just a house I lived in.
"The job" rather than "my job" brings the idea of what a job is back down to reality. It was never "my job'...it was just a job I did, that anyone with the same qualifications can do.
The children I raised are not mine...They are "life longing for itself" (Gibran) . They just came from me. I do not own them.
I have friends yes and I love my friends but they are not mine. We are getting into the idea of special relationships again with friendships and intimate relationships by the use of these pronouns. D. is not mine either. And Love, by the true nature of the experience...is not something that could ever be limited to special relationships or "my" or "mine."
As for "My God"...well that is self explanatory, is it not? There is just God. So many wars and so much destruction has occurred over the years in an attempt to own some idea of God.
Do I need to go on? One more..."My Life"...There is no "my to life"...there is just life and we are all it. Someday maybe we will truly realize that. Maybe we will put down our need for possessive pronouns and our fear so that we can see Self for what it really is....something that never separates, defends, attacks or possesses the valueless.
Hmm!
Okay...I am done talking about language...I think lol.
All is well.
Monday, May 28, 2018
Accomplishing Much?
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else, is the greatest accomplishment.
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
What do you want to do today?
The question that makes me cringe more than any other lately is, "What do you want to do today?" When D. asks me that question for some reason I want to haul off and hit him. (If you knew D. you would realize how extreme of a reaction that is...nobody wants to do anything but hug D. lol) Yet he asks me that question and I feel assaulted and I want to assault back. Why?
Because I do not want to do anything. I don't want to "do". I don't want to think about doing...plan doing...make choices of doing. The thought of that sickens me.Yuck! yuck! Yuck!.
Accomplishing much?
I am not naturally a lazy person. I have worked hard to accomplish many things over the course of my life. I can stay focused and work non stop at something without taking a break as I have with the marking needed for this last course I taught. I am okay with working hard, body willing.
"Accomplishment" in fact used to be one of my motivating mantra words. I mentioned before that I used to be a "To-Do" list addict, right? I would gain a great sense of "accomplishment" whenever I checked something off that list.
I now stay clear of to-do lists and the word accomplishment sounds like something I burp up. I accomplish very little it seems...well from what can be seen with the human eye that is. There is so much I know needs to be done...fixed...cleaned...repaired...ordered...dealt with etc...but heck I am not going there. I am not picking up a pen to write those things down either. I just want nothing to do with doing...or accomplishing. It shows...man it shows...but I just don't care.
I mean I write...and words are there somewhere that some would call accomplishment. I spend a lot of extra hours on this last course doing what some of the students expressed great appreciation for though it is not measured in pay or scheduled hours. Kids will tell me I am great because I am always there for them. Yet none of this stuff is really measurable by society's standards is it? According to society...I am a big lazy mess of unproductive flesh. I know that...yet I still won't pick up that pen to write a list and I still cringe when someone asks me what I want to do.
Part of me says , "You need to explain to people why you aren't working, to tell them about what your body is doing and how hard it is for you to be physical." I have no desire to explain anything to anyone anymore...not even to my self. :)
I don't seem to need that validation for accomplishment any more. In fact...I am starting to see that true accomplishment cannot be measured externally or by others. It's an internal game.
Choosing "Be-ing'' over "Do-ing"
I want to be...not do. I want to be. I want to live...not accomplish. I want to live. I want to be peaceful...not act, fix, solve, partake or be busy. I want peace. Where does that put me in this society? Crazy lady! lol
You know what? I am okay with that. lol. I just don't care that much anymore about pleasing others and meeting social expectations. For now, I am honoring this feeling. I am not doing.
I am hoping this is just part of the waking up process and eventually I will find a balance between being and doing. Hopefully my resistance to D.'s innocent question will not always trigger such a reaction in me. He doesn't deserve a black-eye.lol
All is well.
Sunday, May 27, 2018
Blossom!
And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
Elizabeth Appell
Saturday, May 26, 2018
The Difference Between Words
The difference between the right word and the almost right word is like the difference between lightning and a lightning bug.
-Mark Twain
I am still a little stuck on the limitations of the English Language as a symbol of the limitations of our western cultural conditioning. Get all that? :)
I am looking at the words "I have" in how they relate as a replacement for our distorted use of "I am."
Not to be used with doing
Now when I use "I have" here in favorable terms...I am by no means recommending it as a good choice for describing doing. When it comes to doing, I see it as a curse term synonymous with "should' and "must". I absolutely hate to see it in forms like, "I have to do this." "I have to go." etc. No...it is yucky in that context. It denies the freedom of choice that each of us have internally.
Replace "I am" with "I have"
The context I want "I have" to be used is simply in the replacement of "I am" when we identify with the perishable or temporary that diminish the "I am" potentiality. In other words...I would like to see us say, "I have a role as a nurse, doctor, writer...or whatever right now," instead of saying to ourselves and to the world, "I am a nurse, doctor, writer." "I have feelings of frustration, anger, loneliness right now," instead of saying, "I am frustrated, angry, lonely." "I have pain right now," instead of saying, "I am sick or broken." Does that make sense?
The Difference
What difference does it make to replace "I am" with "I have" there? A lot.
Firstly, when I say I am...it is like I am saying to myself and the world..."Look at me. This is who I am. This sickness, this emotion, this role...is who I am." It is a piece of me.
When I say" I have...", I am not identifying, not making what I have a part of me. It is like I am holding this particular something in my hands and showing it to myself and the world. "Look at this. This is what I have in my hands right now." The thing I have is separate from me...it is just something I am holding a part from me and experiencing with my five senses. It isn't "me".
Another difference is in permanence. In "I am"...whatever I am experiencing is deemed to be as eternal as I am. There is no temporary nature to it. I am clinging and making things of this world something they are not. For example, if I say "I am sick." it implies there is no end to it. It is as if sickness is as much a part of me as is my name or my eye colour.
I, however, use "right now", when I describe the experience of having, to bring us back into the moment, the only time there is. In this moment...I have this or that. I may have pain but it will not last forever. I just have it right now. I may not have what I have now in the next moment but that is irrelevant. Right now I have this or that. The use of "I have" shows that I recognize that things of the external world are temporary and fleeting.
The biggest distinguishing point between I am and I have is...is that in "I have" I express that I can put whatever I am holding down whenever I choose to, it is not a part of me...I don't have to amputate pieces of the Self if I decide to remove it. I don't lose who I am when I set it on the ground and walk away. If you are holding a heavy bolder in your hands and it gets heavy, what do you do? You put it down and walk away.
If I use "I am" however...it equates to this understanding that part of me will be removed if I take this thing away. I will be less than. Even removing painful things like a heavy bolder or painful emotion may be resisted if we use these terms for fear of losing who we are in the process. If I am angry...I will cling to that anger in fear of the pain of amputation if I don't. There is a potential for loss and pain in the inappropriate use of "I am" and much less in in "I have".
Try this and see which one "feels" better for you. "I am suffering" or "I have suffering in my life right now." ????
If we want to use language to detach from erroneous cultural beliefs, we need to change "I am" to "I have" when we describe roles, feelings or temporary experiences. It will, I believe, eventually change the way we look at Self and look at Life.
More food for thought.
All is well.
-Mark Twain
I am still a little stuck on the limitations of the English Language as a symbol of the limitations of our western cultural conditioning. Get all that? :)
I am looking at the words "I have" in how they relate as a replacement for our distorted use of "I am."
Not to be used with doing
Now when I use "I have" here in favorable terms...I am by no means recommending it as a good choice for describing doing. When it comes to doing, I see it as a curse term synonymous with "should' and "must". I absolutely hate to see it in forms like, "I have to do this." "I have to go." etc. No...it is yucky in that context. It denies the freedom of choice that each of us have internally.
Replace "I am" with "I have"
The context I want "I have" to be used is simply in the replacement of "I am" when we identify with the perishable or temporary that diminish the "I am" potentiality. In other words...I would like to see us say, "I have a role as a nurse, doctor, writer...or whatever right now," instead of saying to ourselves and to the world, "I am a nurse, doctor, writer." "I have feelings of frustration, anger, loneliness right now," instead of saying, "I am frustrated, angry, lonely." "I have pain right now," instead of saying, "I am sick or broken." Does that make sense?
The Difference
What difference does it make to replace "I am" with "I have" there? A lot.
Firstly, when I say I am...it is like I am saying to myself and the world..."Look at me. This is who I am. This sickness, this emotion, this role...is who I am." It is a piece of me.
When I say" I have...", I am not identifying, not making what I have a part of me. It is like I am holding this particular something in my hands and showing it to myself and the world. "Look at this. This is what I have in my hands right now." The thing I have is separate from me...it is just something I am holding a part from me and experiencing with my five senses. It isn't "me".
Another difference is in permanence. In "I am"...whatever I am experiencing is deemed to be as eternal as I am. There is no temporary nature to it. I am clinging and making things of this world something they are not. For example, if I say "I am sick." it implies there is no end to it. It is as if sickness is as much a part of me as is my name or my eye colour.
I, however, use "right now", when I describe the experience of having, to bring us back into the moment, the only time there is. In this moment...I have this or that. I may have pain but it will not last forever. I just have it right now. I may not have what I have now in the next moment but that is irrelevant. Right now I have this or that. The use of "I have" shows that I recognize that things of the external world are temporary and fleeting.
The biggest distinguishing point between I am and I have is...is that in "I have" I express that I can put whatever I am holding down whenever I choose to, it is not a part of me...I don't have to amputate pieces of the Self if I decide to remove it. I don't lose who I am when I set it on the ground and walk away. If you are holding a heavy bolder in your hands and it gets heavy, what do you do? You put it down and walk away.
If I use "I am" however...it equates to this understanding that part of me will be removed if I take this thing away. I will be less than. Even removing painful things like a heavy bolder or painful emotion may be resisted if we use these terms for fear of losing who we are in the process. If I am angry...I will cling to that anger in fear of the pain of amputation if I don't. There is a potential for loss and pain in the inappropriate use of "I am" and much less in in "I have".
Try this and see which one "feels" better for you. "I am suffering" or "I have suffering in my life right now." ????
If we want to use language to detach from erroneous cultural beliefs, we need to change "I am" to "I have" when we describe roles, feelings or temporary experiences. It will, I believe, eventually change the way we look at Self and look at Life.
More food for thought.
All is well.
Friday, May 25, 2018
"I am" in the English Language
No matter what people tell you, words and ideas can change the world.
-Robin Williams https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/words
For the Love of Words
I love words and I love to understand their meaning. My mother tongue ( my only tongue lol) is English so I am fascinated with the English language...it's beauty and its limitations. I believe our language reflects our culture and our culture reflects what we think and believe as a people. The words we use then can reflect what we believe.
The Limitations of the English Language
"I am sick!" "I am afraid". "I am lonely." "I am a doctor." "I am a photographer." "I am a writer."
We tend to use that "I am " a lot don't we, in the English language? We tend to identify with roles, ideas, experiences, thoughts and feelings as if we...who we really are...are those things. But we aren't those things are we?
I, for example am not sick. How can a person "be" a sickness? If I had colitis for example...would it sound okay for me to introduce myself to people I first meet, "Hi. I'm Colitis, nice to meet you?" "Or even, "Hi. I'm Influenza. What? You're Influenza too? Weird, what are the chances of that? We have the same name."
I can have an illness...more accurately...My body can be experiencing the symptoms of a sickness but I cannot be "Sick. " Yet so many of us accept that temporary experience as our identity by adding the "I am" in front of it. We become sickness in our minds where our twisted version of reality exists. We share it and it becomes a part of the collective mind set. Sickness takes on a real and potential part of our beingness (in our minds only).
What about if I said "I am afraid." or "I am lonely?" Again, can I be a temporary emotional experience? Can I introduce myself to a crowd of people and say, "Hi, I am frustration and I am here to talk to you today about slow drivers" ? I can feel anger; I can experience loneliness but I cannot be anger or loneliness.
Yet there we are with that big permanent marker scribbling "I am" in front of those emotions so that we become them in our minds. We cling to temporary and fleeting experiences as a part of who we are. Tomorrow, I may get up on stage and say, "Hi, today I am peaceful and I would like to talk to you about forgiveness." How do we explain the permanence of that "I am-ness" then?
Can you change your name that fast? Are you Sally one hour and Tom the next? Talk about the Split personality again. Emotions are so temporary and changeable. So how can we attach "I am" to them when those two words signify eternity? And what happens when we do...we become lost in them, overwhelmed by them, powerless to them...because they are not just passing by like leaves on a stream but we see them as a part of who we are.
What about the roles we take on? Can we be those things? Sounds better for sure, when I introduce myself as "I am So and So and I am a photographer." That makes sense right? Yet, is it? When I say I am a photographer...I am saying that is who I am...It is not just what I do even though it is all about what I do. Roles are action words with a twist. Each of the roles require an action + an "or" or an "er." Do they not? I write but I am not a writer. I am so much more than a play on an action word, aren't I? I am so much more than what I do.
The Sacredness of "I am" in other Languages
I am in many eastern languages has a very eternal and sacred connotation to it. There is a passage in Exodus, written in Hebrew that gets translated to English as, "I am Who I am. This is what you are to say to the Israelites,: 'I AM has sent me to you.'" Exodus 3:14 NSV How can you get more sacred, more eternal than that? Yet we take those two words and plop them in front of words like sickness, emotion, what we do. Does that make sense to diminish them in such a way?
I am that (So hum) in Sanskrit sums up the eternalness of who we are beautifully. I am That...which is sacred, which is eternal. So why on earth would we diminish the potentiality of those words by saying something like , "I am angry?"
The English language limits us, removes us from who we really are and keeps us stuck in the temporary and the perishable. Despite its beautiful poetry, English tends to be ego's language, doesn't it? Hmm
Just some food for thought.
All is well
-Robin Williams https://www.brainyquote.com/topics/words
For the Love of Words
I love words and I love to understand their meaning. My mother tongue ( my only tongue lol) is English so I am fascinated with the English language...it's beauty and its limitations. I believe our language reflects our culture and our culture reflects what we think and believe as a people. The words we use then can reflect what we believe.
The Limitations of the English Language
"I am sick!" "I am afraid". "I am lonely." "I am a doctor." "I am a photographer." "I am a writer."
We tend to use that "I am " a lot don't we, in the English language? We tend to identify with roles, ideas, experiences, thoughts and feelings as if we...who we really are...are those things. But we aren't those things are we?
I, for example am not sick. How can a person "be" a sickness? If I had colitis for example...would it sound okay for me to introduce myself to people I first meet, "Hi. I'm Colitis, nice to meet you?" "Or even, "Hi. I'm Influenza. What? You're Influenza too? Weird, what are the chances of that? We have the same name."
I can have an illness...more accurately...My body can be experiencing the symptoms of a sickness but I cannot be "Sick. " Yet so many of us accept that temporary experience as our identity by adding the "I am" in front of it. We become sickness in our minds where our twisted version of reality exists. We share it and it becomes a part of the collective mind set. Sickness takes on a real and potential part of our beingness (in our minds only).
What about if I said "I am afraid." or "I am lonely?" Again, can I be a temporary emotional experience? Can I introduce myself to a crowd of people and say, "Hi, I am frustration and I am here to talk to you today about slow drivers" ? I can feel anger; I can experience loneliness but I cannot be anger or loneliness.
Yet there we are with that big permanent marker scribbling "I am" in front of those emotions so that we become them in our minds. We cling to temporary and fleeting experiences as a part of who we are. Tomorrow, I may get up on stage and say, "Hi, today I am peaceful and I would like to talk to you about forgiveness." How do we explain the permanence of that "I am-ness" then?
Can you change your name that fast? Are you Sally one hour and Tom the next? Talk about the Split personality again. Emotions are so temporary and changeable. So how can we attach "I am" to them when those two words signify eternity? And what happens when we do...we become lost in them, overwhelmed by them, powerless to them...because they are not just passing by like leaves on a stream but we see them as a part of who we are.
What about the roles we take on? Can we be those things? Sounds better for sure, when I introduce myself as "I am So and So and I am a photographer." That makes sense right? Yet, is it? When I say I am a photographer...I am saying that is who I am...It is not just what I do even though it is all about what I do. Roles are action words with a twist. Each of the roles require an action + an "or" or an "er." Do they not? I write but I am not a writer. I am so much more than a play on an action word, aren't I? I am so much more than what I do.
The Sacredness of "I am" in other Languages
I am in many eastern languages has a very eternal and sacred connotation to it. There is a passage in Exodus, written in Hebrew that gets translated to English as, "I am Who I am. This is what you are to say to the Israelites,: 'I AM has sent me to you.'" Exodus 3:14 NSV How can you get more sacred, more eternal than that? Yet we take those two words and plop them in front of words like sickness, emotion, what we do. Does that make sense to diminish them in such a way?
I am that (So hum) in Sanskrit sums up the eternalness of who we are beautifully. I am That...which is sacred, which is eternal. So why on earth would we diminish the potentiality of those words by saying something like , "I am angry?"
The English language limits us, removes us from who we really are and keeps us stuck in the temporary and the perishable. Despite its beautiful poetry, English tends to be ego's language, doesn't it? Hmm
Just some food for thought.
All is well
Thursday, May 24, 2018
A Weight of Nerves Without a Mind
So many worlds, so much to do, so little done, so much to be.
Alfred Lord Tennyson; In Memoriam LXXXIII
A lot is said in this sad and pensive poem by Tennyson, a memoriam to his almost brother-in-law and dear friend Arthur who died too young. Throughout this very, very long poem the poet is talking to Christ asking him to keep him rooted in faith in fear that grief will take him away. What has that got to do with ego talk, and finding the True Self? Everything!
Many Worlds
What I hear from this section (LXXXIII) is the division of self throughout the worlds (death -life, dimensions, countries, daily experiences) ...the getting caught up in doing and eventually leaving things undone when there is so much to "be". He resents the fact that his friend didn't get to be, all that he can be.
Like a Dove
For some reason...not that it will ever make sense to anyone, including myself lol...I find myself caught like he as he watches the dove in an earlier section of the poem. I long to be "without a mind". I too, (though not quite resembling the drama the poem speaks too lol) am jumping off a cliff and hasting away from this world that I knew.
Alfred Lord Tennyson; In Memoriam LXXXIII
A lot is said in this sad and pensive poem by Tennyson, a memoriam to his almost brother-in-law and dear friend Arthur who died too young. Throughout this very, very long poem the poet is talking to Christ asking him to keep him rooted in faith in fear that grief will take him away. What has that got to do with ego talk, and finding the True Self? Everything!
Many Worlds
What I hear from this section (LXXXIII) is the division of self throughout the worlds (death -life, dimensions, countries, daily experiences) ...the getting caught up in doing and eventually leaving things undone when there is so much to "be". He resents the fact that his friend didn't get to be, all that he can be.
Like a Dove
For some reason...not that it will ever make sense to anyone, including myself lol...I find myself caught like he as he watches the dove in an earlier section of the poem. I long to be "without a mind". I too, (though not quite resembling the drama the poem speaks too lol) am jumping off a cliff and hasting away from this world that I knew.
Like her, I go;I cannot stay.
I leave this mortal ark behind,
A weight of nerves without a mind,
And leave the cliffs, and haste away.
- Section XII
Like Tennyson, I am not seeking death, in the physical sense, I am seeking death in the mental. Tennyson imagines becoming like the dove and escaping all he thought the world was. He imagines flying up and above, circling, looking out at the world in a whole new way, being careless, without worry or concern...thinking possibly it is the end, before eventually slipping back into the body and time. "...an hour away." He goes from life, to death ( immortality) to life.
(So technically ...this is not a "dove" in this image. It was the closet I could find. Either that or a pigeon on a roof which is technically a dove...but you know it wouldn't have the same effect :) )
On the Cliff Caught Between Two Worlds
On the Cliff Caught Between Two Worlds
In this poem he obviously feels caught between two worlds...the physical and the spiritual. The physical world is full of pain and grief, the spiritual ...freeing. This freedom, this joyful vision of the world doesn't require death of the physical body, it requires a death of our "resistance" to it. ...an escape from the mind to just be " a weight of nerves". How eloquently that describes this beingness...feather light, nothing but the full experience of living, guided by each nerve impulse and the wind beneath the wings...without thought, without resistance, without mind. Is that not living? Hmmm!
What drives him to this heart to heart with the Divine? Grief, pain, suffering...what the second noble truth of Buddhism refers to as Dukkha. Dukkha brings a recognition that yes there is suffering in this world as human beings but there is a way from it. By "leaving the cliffs" ...that edge of physicality... our "attachment" to it...our connection to idea, identity, ownership, separation, ego...we can become free, like the dove...and we connect, as he felt he would, with all other beings in a timeless state. Is that what we are not here to do?
I have been feeling like such a misfit in this world lately. I don't know how to do the "normal" things people do anymore. They do not have meaning for me. Yet ego keeps pulling me back into it because as awkward and sometimes painful as it is...it is still familiar. It tells me I am supposed to be normal lol. Shame and redemption seem to be the normal pattern of existence for me. For so long, I have been standing on this cliff knowing that I cannot stay.
Don't get me wrong...I am not planning to off my Self (or leave this physical body)...I am just wanting to off my 'self", my ego. I want to leave my connection to it behind. I leap.
Ironically...what lesson do I happen upon in ACIM as I pray for faith and guidance, just as Tennyson did? No one can fail who seeks to reach the truth &; I loose the world from all I thought it was. Lesson 146
Now what? lol
It is all good.
References:
ACIM
Tennyson, Lord Alfred. (1893) In Memoriam. Full text: In Memoriam by lord Alfred Tennyson; edited with notes. Retrieved from: https://archive.org/stream/inmemoriambyalfr00tennuoft/inmemoriambyalfr00tennuoft_djvu.txt
Wednesday, May 23, 2018
Time Out for Ego Twins
Just in case you are wondering about the previous blog...no...I am not like the character in Split. Well, not really lol. I was once again speaking very figuratively. If you were popping in for the first time and concerned about all this "ego" stuff, you don't have to be. It is all good. No worries. Though I am as 'insane ' as the majority of the population, I do not have any virgins in my basement waiting to have their hearts fed to "the beast." I am just waking up and having a good look at what is real and what isn't. I see the ego twins in many of us and I comment on them.
Now, you could shake your head and think I am crazier than a bag of hammers if you need to. I am okay with that. Before you do, however, please take a look at the people around you and take a look at yourself. Do you not see any signs of a Shamer or Redeemer ego there? I bet you do.
Anyway. I am grateful for the experience yesterday and what it has taught me. It showed me that my ego twins both need a long time out. :)
It is all good.
Now, you could shake your head and think I am crazier than a bag of hammers if you need to. I am okay with that. Before you do, however, please take a look at the people around you and take a look at yourself. Do you not see any signs of a Shamer or Redeemer ego there? I bet you do.
Anyway. I am grateful for the experience yesterday and what it has taught me. It showed me that my ego twins both need a long time out. :)
It is all good.
Tuesday, May 22, 2018
Wrong again!
Sigh...I hate being wrong when it comes to my physical health for all kinds of reasons...but I know it is all ego based. It is therefore very good for me when I am :)
The Personalities of Ego
I believe, that not only do I have an ego in me...a little self that tries so hard to convince me that I am separate from the world, and at the mercy of those around me...I have two of them. Two egos?
Well I believe the ego in most of us is insane and mine is suffering from a dissociative disorder. It has a split personality. :) Sometimes it comes out as Shamer ego...knocking me down and keeping me down with reminders of all the nasty things I am and all the wonderful things I will never be. It reminds me constantly of the things I did wrong!
Other times Redeemer ego comes out of the recesses. He does the opposite of Shamer. He tries to build this idea of me up in the eyes of others with ways I can compensate for losses, "be better" than someone else...or at least be proven right when Shamer was proven wrong. He gets me into so much trouble with his ceaseless need to "do", to "win", to "own", to "gain" and to prove myself to this world that Shamer feels so inferior in.
I absolutely despise the both of them lol. Shamer leaves me feeling the way I feel now but Redeemer never stops. He is too persistent for my liking.
Do you see where this is going yet?
Do you remember my little arm problem that I have been complaining about?
No fracture!
I decided to ignore Shamer and listen to Redeemer. I spent way too much time thinking about this...and avoiding all the risks associated with the only way I would know for sure. I had to pull up my Redeemer ego pants, push the voice of Shamer aside, take a deep breath and I had to go back in there!!! lol. And I did, if for no other reason than to get out of my head. I was not going to stop thinking about this until an x-ray was done and a fracture was ruled out. (But man...I am still not convinced...just too much pain 12 days after a fall to be just soft tissue....did I say that Redeemer was pretty persistent. lol))
Anyway...the poor doctor assured me it was not broke because I could pronate and supinate ( hurts to supinate) but I looked at her and out it came, "I don't care! I want an X-ray!" (In my mind I was thinking...could be a hairline fracture or a longitudinal one...I would be able to make those movements then and I didn't wait eight hours for a "just a bruise" diagnosis). So ...I was hell bent on not being dismissed. I am not sure from where it came...the place of Being or the place of being frustrated and p###$# off lol. ...but I was assertive and I got my x-ray!
The results were negative. She came back in to tell me basically that it was "just a bruise". Ugh!!! One thing Redeemer ego cannot stand is to be called "wimp" and I feel I have just been called one...big time! Ego is really getting quite the tuning , isn't it?
And I, now just a red faced Shamer ego, had to walk out of there with my tail between my legs....again! All those doctors which were branded and herded together to become the "they" in my health care dilemma won again. "They" 2,899,000,000...me ( my ego) 0...well maybe 3 lol....oh the shame.
My True Self...however, takes no score. It is not one bit interested in who is right and who is wrong, who calls themselves the doctor and who calls themself the patient, if the arm was fractured or just bruised, and if my ego got slapped around or not. It sees no battling personalities in my mind. It is beyond all that stuff. It just is. I want to be "just is" lol
Man! There has to be some big learning in this. I will get to that later.
The Personalities of Ego
I believe, that not only do I have an ego in me...a little self that tries so hard to convince me that I am separate from the world, and at the mercy of those around me...I have two of them. Two egos?
Well I believe the ego in most of us is insane and mine is suffering from a dissociative disorder. It has a split personality. :) Sometimes it comes out as Shamer ego...knocking me down and keeping me down with reminders of all the nasty things I am and all the wonderful things I will never be. It reminds me constantly of the things I did wrong!
Other times Redeemer ego comes out of the recesses. He does the opposite of Shamer. He tries to build this idea of me up in the eyes of others with ways I can compensate for losses, "be better" than someone else...or at least be proven right when Shamer was proven wrong. He gets me into so much trouble with his ceaseless need to "do", to "win", to "own", to "gain" and to prove myself to this world that Shamer feels so inferior in.
I absolutely despise the both of them lol. Shamer leaves me feeling the way I feel now but Redeemer never stops. He is too persistent for my liking.
Do you see where this is going yet?
Do you remember my little arm problem that I have been complaining about?
No fracture!
I decided to ignore Shamer and listen to Redeemer. I spent way too much time thinking about this...and avoiding all the risks associated with the only way I would know for sure. I had to pull up my Redeemer ego pants, push the voice of Shamer aside, take a deep breath and I had to go back in there!!! lol. And I did, if for no other reason than to get out of my head. I was not going to stop thinking about this until an x-ray was done and a fracture was ruled out. (But man...I am still not convinced...just too much pain 12 days after a fall to be just soft tissue....did I say that Redeemer was pretty persistent. lol))
Anyway...the poor doctor assured me it was not broke because I could pronate and supinate ( hurts to supinate) but I looked at her and out it came, "I don't care! I want an X-ray!" (In my mind I was thinking...could be a hairline fracture or a longitudinal one...I would be able to make those movements then and I didn't wait eight hours for a "just a bruise" diagnosis). So ...I was hell bent on not being dismissed. I am not sure from where it came...the place of Being or the place of being frustrated and p###$# off lol. ...but I was assertive and I got my x-ray!
The results were negative. She came back in to tell me basically that it was "just a bruise". Ugh!!! One thing Redeemer ego cannot stand is to be called "wimp" and I feel I have just been called one...big time! Ego is really getting quite the tuning , isn't it?
And I, now just a red faced Shamer ego, had to walk out of there with my tail between my legs....again! All those doctors which were branded and herded together to become the "they" in my health care dilemma won again. "They" 2,899,000,000...me ( my ego) 0...well maybe 3 lol....oh the shame.
My True Self...however, takes no score. It is not one bit interested in who is right and who is wrong, who calls themselves the doctor and who calls themself the patient, if the arm was fractured or just bruised, and if my ego got slapped around or not. It sees no battling personalities in my mind. It is beyond all that stuff. It just is. I want to be "just is" lol
Man! There has to be some big learning in this. I will get to that later.
Monday, May 21, 2018
A Lesson learned when I hurt my arm
Thanks for everything. I have no complaints what so ever.
-from a story told by Eckhart Tolle in Transcending the Ego Video
I am still such an ego maniac, a thought junkie, a chronic narrator, a roving reporter, a little prisoner stuck in the confines of the personal self, the heroic victim in the tragic story I alone am writing and I am still for the most part very much asleep. Sigh!
I realize that I am not yet where I want to be. I am having trouble waking up and staying awake...no matter how annoying that buzzing alarm gets. I am almost there, it seems, I begin to wake up and just as I am crawling out of bed, I fall back to sleep again. I seem to be caught on a "enlightenment wheel" lol. Another big pathetic sigh!
Body Focus
I think I have come so far...and I have...but every now and again I get reminded of how far I have to go. This arm is reminding me of the obstacles I have before me. It bloody hurts and it is so annoying. I get pulled back into body focus and will sometimes get lost in the discomfort.
Mind and Story Focus
But the pain is benign in comparison to what happens in my mind to spin a story around it. I get the pain and I think, "Oh it hurts again. There has to be a fracture. I wish they would have x-rayed it when I went in nine days ago. It took me so long to get the courage up to go in when I did. I hate going in there. And like always, my health seeking attempt turned against me."
The thinking will continue to expand to, "I can't go in again. I think I would rather have a fracture. What will happen long term with a mal union if there is a fracture there? Can I live with that? But the pain...can I live with that? Man...I live with the chest pain on a regular basis. This is minimal in comparison."
It goes on..."It would be worse if I got it x-rayed and there was no fracture, wouldn't it? I would then have another "unnecessary ER record" stuck to my massively large chart, giving them ("them" being all physicians who I have rounded up, branded and herded into one big coral...stereotyping at its best, lol) even more reason to adhere to their assumptions about me, 'Fat Folder Syndrome; hysterical hypochondriac, attention seeker or someone with a factitious or conversion disorder.' My future or my family members' future cardiac complaints will then be possibly dismissed when help is needed most. Is my arm worth that?"
The thinking continues to grow into a whirlwind. "I can't expect them to take my complaints seriously just because of a few bruises that are almost faded when they never took the chest pain seriously, the pelvic pain seriously, the loss of eyesight seriously, the severe vertigo I had that time seriously, the fainting seriously or me seriously. I mean...if they did take me seriously wouldn't something have been done about it? My chest pain, even after my sisters' heart attacks, is still such a reality for me but no one hears me. How am I to think that they will believe me that my arms hurts when someone else basically tells me the usual story, "These tests or assessments show that it shouldn't therefore it doesn't"? "
I know then that I am out of the present moment. Time becomes my opponent. I leave the future and am dragged into the past by my desperate little mind, "It has been such a hard journey. Over twenty years I tried to get help for what most of me knows is very real. And I still don't have it...even after my sister died of a sudden SCD and two others infarcted in their early fifties, years after I first presented with what appeared to be cardiac symptoms...I am still here living with this, unable to work or do few of the things I used to love to do. Everything has fallen apart around me. I have lost so much and I continue to lose so much but still no one hears me. There is no hope for ever getting any medical help for my health. And it takes too much out of me to try. It is all so unfair. I am such a victim to my tragic life. I don't want this suffering anymore. I give up trying."
Accepting What is
It is with this 'giving up' that I finally ironically find what I have been looking for... a certain peace in acceptance...I feel myself settling in to what is. " This is my reality now. It is what it is. As Eckhart Tolle says, Reality is relatively very benign compared to what your mind is saying about it. (2018). I can get out of my mind. I will let go. I will let others believe what they need to believe about me to appease their own egos. I accept the lack of diagnosis, the lack of help, the lack of support and find my way to the healing that really matters. It is all good."
Then I find myself in the right place, getting to what is really important. I lose my attachment to ego and physical world things. I feel the veil moving between me and this "transcendent dimension'' (Tolle, 2018) I wake up and I I feel a certain peace. It is all so lovely...
Ego not done with me yet
That is until...I move my arm a certain way or wake up in the middle of the night to the throbbing and the darn thing starts all over again, "This shouldn't hurt this much. It must be broken...." and on and on and on...it goes. :) Ego is not done with me yet.
I know there is a very good lesson in hurting my arm. If I didn't I would just be waking up on a pseudo level. I wouldn't be dealing with the pain and frustration I stuffed about my health seeking adventure over the years. It is like a big fur ball caught inside me that I need to cough up.
I don't need to build story around it but I do need to experience the feelings, sit with them, express them. I haven't done that. When in ego I numb with story telling, I complain which is equal to resistance and I feel sorry for myself. When in that other beautiful place I ignore the knocking at the door. I shut out the feelings.
I think it is okay to step out and just sit with these feeling for a while. Let them be too. Maybe this arm is taking me there. :)
I still don't know about going in to get it x-rayed. The practical part of me knows I should. still not sure what part that is though...the ego or the true Self. Hmmm! We will see. For now, it is just good to see what I am doing in my mind. :)
It is all good. It really is.
References
Creative Manifestor (2016, May) Eckhart Tolle: Transcending the Ego. Retrieved from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r7QQqJcx4uI
Saturday, May 19, 2018
Inside
Outside,
the world
is noisy and chaotic,
full of voices
calling out my name,
hands
grabbing at my flesh
as they cling to me
in desperate need
of something
I don’t know
how to give.
Outside,
the world
is fast and pressured,
with clocks
reprimanding me with
their sharp ticking speeches,
“Get moving!
Keep doing!
Get it done!”
Outside,
the world
is a blurry collage
of faces
that rush past me
with their grievances
and their pleas for help.
My hand is so weary
it trembles
when I lift it up
to wipe away a tear
from one of those lovely cheeks.
Outside,
the world
is not accepting
of the fatigue and pain
that is claiming
my body
and my mind,
telling me
to just push past it
so that I do not complicate
the constant momentum
of things.
Inside,
the world
is different.
Inside,
the world
is quiet and peaceful.
Inside,
the world
is slow and still.
Inside,
the world
is full of abundant Love.
Inside,
the world
is accepting of “what is”.
Inside,
is where
everything is real.
Inside,
is where
I want to be.
Dale-Lyn 2010
It is funny how I am running into all these poems now that I wrote so long ago. They speak to the same issues I am dealing with now...the same learning. :)
The Gift of Challenge
"This is the gift I give you," Life says. "A tailored made set of challenges, just for you."
-Eckhart Tolle (from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uWx1JJTaGa4)
Turning Our Noses Up at Free Tuition
Hmmm! I love this idea that each of us are given a set of challenges in which to process through, learn and grow. If we were given free tuition to the university of our choice, would we not be grateful? We would more than likely accept that it will be challenging and down right difficult at times but we would look at this opportunity to learn and emerge victorious on the other side as a blessing, wouldn't we? Why then do so many of us complain and blame life for being difficult when it offers us challenges?
So often we look at life as this unfair punisher that is randomly throwing unfavorable circumstances at us, sabotaging us, "picking on us" while favoring others in the class. We look at the circumstances it offers us, sometimes, as unfair punishment. "Why are you doing this to me?" we may shout out to the universe.
Curriculum Design
We don't get it. We don't see that every life challenge we encounter is a gift, a precious gift that was picked out thoughtfully by a loving parent of many, many children, just for us. Each of us, each unique expression of the One source that is Life, are given a tailored made set of challenges to process through. What I am given to experience may be different than what you are given. Some individuals on this planet seem to suffer excruciatingly painful and difficult challenges, while others seem to pass through life with so few. Why? Because what I need to express Life fully and to bloom like the crocus does in spring...is different than what you need, what the person on the other side of the globe needs. Each of us have a different curriculum design to help us achieve the same outcome.
The Real Challenge is in Our Resistance
The greatest difficulty we have with life is not the circumstances but our resistance to the challenges or life lessons they offer us. We tell ourselves that life should be a particular way; we compare with others who seem to have it easier; and we dismiss the thought of others who may have it worse. We say, "No! It shouldn't be this way. That person shouldn't be that way. Life should be easy!!!!"
Life, like a challenging degree, is not meant to be easy. In fact, it can be down right difficult! But it is difficult for a reason. Each challenge we encounter is a growth lesson. If we resist the lesson ...it won't stop the Teacher from rattling on...it won't make the lesson go away. We will still need to learn what is being offered...and the lesson will not go away until we do. Sigh...we need to stop resisting. We need to settle in our seats and accept the gift of challenge being taught.
That doesn't mean we have to like it or say it is easy when it is not. Accepting "what is" is the first and most necessary step into learning, growing and changing life circumstance. Accept first. Appreciate next...and then you will be shown when, how or if change is required.
All is well!
-Eckhart Tolle (from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uWx1JJTaGa4)
Turning Our Noses Up at Free Tuition
Hmmm! I love this idea that each of us are given a set of challenges in which to process through, learn and grow. If we were given free tuition to the university of our choice, would we not be grateful? We would more than likely accept that it will be challenging and down right difficult at times but we would look at this opportunity to learn and emerge victorious on the other side as a blessing, wouldn't we? Why then do so many of us complain and blame life for being difficult when it offers us challenges?
So often we look at life as this unfair punisher that is randomly throwing unfavorable circumstances at us, sabotaging us, "picking on us" while favoring others in the class. We look at the circumstances it offers us, sometimes, as unfair punishment. "Why are you doing this to me?" we may shout out to the universe.
Curriculum Design
We don't get it. We don't see that every life challenge we encounter is a gift, a precious gift that was picked out thoughtfully by a loving parent of many, many children, just for us. Each of us, each unique expression of the One source that is Life, are given a tailored made set of challenges to process through. What I am given to experience may be different than what you are given. Some individuals on this planet seem to suffer excruciatingly painful and difficult challenges, while others seem to pass through life with so few. Why? Because what I need to express Life fully and to bloom like the crocus does in spring...is different than what you need, what the person on the other side of the globe needs. Each of us have a different curriculum design to help us achieve the same outcome.
The Real Challenge is in Our Resistance
The greatest difficulty we have with life is not the circumstances but our resistance to the challenges or life lessons they offer us. We tell ourselves that life should be a particular way; we compare with others who seem to have it easier; and we dismiss the thought of others who may have it worse. We say, "No! It shouldn't be this way. That person shouldn't be that way. Life should be easy!!!!"
Life, like a challenging degree, is not meant to be easy. In fact, it can be down right difficult! But it is difficult for a reason. Each challenge we encounter is a growth lesson. If we resist the lesson ...it won't stop the Teacher from rattling on...it won't make the lesson go away. We will still need to learn what is being offered...and the lesson will not go away until we do. Sigh...we need to stop resisting. We need to settle in our seats and accept the gift of challenge being taught.
That doesn't mean we have to like it or say it is easy when it is not. Accepting "what is" is the first and most necessary step into learning, growing and changing life circumstance. Accept first. Appreciate next...and then you will be shown when, how or if change is required.
All is well!
Friday, May 18, 2018
Ego Hisses
Man, I found this from a few years back and it kind of speaks to what I have been writing about recently. I think I wrote it way back when I went off work the second time after getting sick again. I was so frightened then ...knowing the insurance company wouldn't support me for their own ego reasons and terrified over how I would manage. At the same time, I knew I had to go. I was being pulled away into something greater, regardless of my fear. Illness was simply the catalyst as it is now.
I went through the door then but I didn't stay there. I found myself pulled back into ego's world with its senseless demands that take me away from health, rather than toward it. Now I go through the door again, knowing that I won't come back once I do. No more fighting and struggling on this side of it. I am going home. I am going to be with the peace I long for, the peace we all deserve :)
Ego Hisses
ego hisses at me with its
desperate pleading cries
to ignore the truths I’m offered
calling them foolish, new age lies
it warns me of the darkness
the desolation I will face
if I go forward with these directions
and leave this warm, familiar place
yet I find myself moving onward
pushing ego’s carcass to the floor
and taking slow, hesitant steps
I move through the open door
I went through the door then but I didn't stay there. I found myself pulled back into ego's world with its senseless demands that take me away from health, rather than toward it. Now I go through the door again, knowing that I won't come back once I do. No more fighting and struggling on this side of it. I am going home. I am going to be with the peace I long for, the peace we all deserve :)
Ego Hisses
whispers from that place of secrets
become screams in my ears
twisting, turning messages that
express the truth I fear
I suddenly decide to listen
to stop, head stilled to the side
while I decipher all the wisdom
and put away my pride
become screams in my ears
twisting, turning messages that
express the truth I fear
I suddenly decide to listen
to stop, head stilled to the side
while I decipher all the wisdom
and put away my pride
ego hisses at me with its
desperate pleading cries
to ignore the truths I’m offered
calling them foolish, new age lies
it warns me of the darkness
the desolation I will face
if I go forward with these directions
and leave this warm, familiar place
yet I find myself moving onward
pushing ego’s carcass to the floor
and taking slow, hesitant steps
I move through the open door
I don’t know what I will be facing
what is on the other side
but I know the door has been opened
and it is open very wide.
what is on the other side
but I know the door has been opened
and it is open very wide.
Dale- Lyn, Nov 2013
All is well.
Thursday, May 17, 2018
It is all good.
For what is life except to be yourself, and what but you can be alive instead?
-ACIM W-139
A bit sad today. This morning would have been the last morning I taught if I didn't give the students independent study...so I may not see them again. I will still have time in the office for the next few weeks. Others will be in clinical.
I will make my leaving quiet and unnoticed. When all others are away at clinical, I will walk around and say a proper good bye to the place that I spent so many hours in over the last 14 years. I will miss it and I will so miss the teaching.
It is a loss, but a necessary one. The pain I had over the last few days was validation for the necessity of this loss. I don't need anyone else to validate that for me. I know.
And it is okay. It really is. What is so cool about all this, is that I am learning to be okay with loss and the "big,"bad" things in life. :) That right there says a lot.
A chapter in my life ends today. It certainly was an interesting one, let me tell ya. :) A lot goes on in fourteen years: divorce, leaving, new homes, children growing up so quickly you can't keep up, illness, health seeking that only turns against you, a sudden loss of a beloved sister, the opportunity to care for a father in the last years of his life and to be there when he made the final transition, cancer in a younger sister, heart attacks in two others, seeing the beings you love the most and were so committed to protecting loose themselves in drugs, recovery, slips, recovery, relationships that begin and end leaving so many life lessons behind, pets that come and go, money in bank accounts and then money no where to be found, hope than a severing of a trust in ego- systems that one believed were there to support, and so many winters and so many springs as the faces of the students who sat in front of me kept changing.....And it was all so good because it just was. It just was.
Now I move on and not so much literally. I remove another veil of ego illusion and see a little clearer at least what lay beneath it. I find what is really important. No one can take that away from me.
It is all good.
-ACIM W-139
A bit sad today. This morning would have been the last morning I taught if I didn't give the students independent study...so I may not see them again. I will still have time in the office for the next few weeks. Others will be in clinical.
I will make my leaving quiet and unnoticed. When all others are away at clinical, I will walk around and say a proper good bye to the place that I spent so many hours in over the last 14 years. I will miss it and I will so miss the teaching.
It is a loss, but a necessary one. The pain I had over the last few days was validation for the necessity of this loss. I don't need anyone else to validate that for me. I know.
And it is okay. It really is. What is so cool about all this, is that I am learning to be okay with loss and the "big,"bad" things in life. :) That right there says a lot.
A chapter in my life ends today. It certainly was an interesting one, let me tell ya. :) A lot goes on in fourteen years: divorce, leaving, new homes, children growing up so quickly you can't keep up, illness, health seeking that only turns against you, a sudden loss of a beloved sister, the opportunity to care for a father in the last years of his life and to be there when he made the final transition, cancer in a younger sister, heart attacks in two others, seeing the beings you love the most and were so committed to protecting loose themselves in drugs, recovery, slips, recovery, relationships that begin and end leaving so many life lessons behind, pets that come and go, money in bank accounts and then money no where to be found, hope than a severing of a trust in ego- systems that one believed were there to support, and so many winters and so many springs as the faces of the students who sat in front of me kept changing.....And it was all so good because it just was. It just was.
Now I move on and not so much literally. I remove another veil of ego illusion and see a little clearer at least what lay beneath it. I find what is really important. No one can take that away from me.
It is all good.
Wednesday, May 16, 2018
In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life: It goes on!
- Robert Frost
The Veil
I am fully aware that there is still a veil between me and Self...as flimsy and tattered as it may be getting. :) It is still there. I am still allowing mind and body to rule at times. I forgive both though I work hard to get past that veil ego holds up. I am not "succeeding" at the moment.
Right now body is shouting and screaming...and mind is creating story around it. Sigh!!!
I am working very hard to finish this course I am teaching knowing that it is my last course. I have not much to offer these days to nursing students...being that I am no longer a "Registered" Nurse but I do have some hard earned writing wisdom I can share (as well as some hard earned life wisdom...sometimes they go together.:)) So it is fitting that the last course I teach in this context is Critical Reading and Persuasive Writing.
Anyway...I made a commitment to put in extra hours to assist my last bunch of nursing students to write a very good paper. They wrote an emotional one together to keep them inspired and motivated on the rest of their professional journey. This task required editing on my part and lots of extra hours but I felt it was important. Now they are writing a technical paper and I made a commitment to review each draft before final submission...that is 24 papers and each review takes over an hour. 24 hours I am not getting paid for or rewarded for in any external way. Sigh!!! lol. I want to uphold that commitment. I want to help. I want to leave knowing that I did all I could to help. That is my nature. Pathological? Maybe.
It is not going smoothly. Body and mind are obstacles for me. My arm throbs after a few minutes typing. (There is something definitely going on in there.) And the chest pain started yesterday. I knew I was doing too much...but I ignored the "4" the "5", the "6" warnings and skipped right up into a 9 last night before bed so I could continue reviewing these student papers until late in the evening. It was bad but the whole mental thing goes on when I have it, you know? "What's wrong with you? They don't think there is anything wrong with you so stop it...suck it up...keep going...stop being such a wimp" I have to get past all that before I will allow myself to take the nitro. Well I did manage to weave my way through the mental chatter...the body was determined to be heard. The pain got really loud so I took the nitro and it worked on the first shot...thank goodness. As usually happens when I have these "clusters", I woke up with it again in the morning and took the nitro again...relief.
There is a little battle going on in me ...What do I listen to when spirit can't be heard? Body or mind? Body won those two battles but if mind can't beat it, it joins it. It steps in to build story around the body. "Crazy fool! Look what you are doing. Chest pain again! And you are all alone in this...you can't even tell anyone about it. No one is helping you with it...and here you are helping others. What is wrong with you? You are allowing others to take advantage. You must see yourself as valueless. etc etc" On and on and on it goes. Oh man.
On top of that I have family obligations. Trying to get my daughter into university. The residence fee was due yesterday and we put it off til the very last minute because I had no way to pay for it...had to use credit again. Yuck! And issues with my son showed up. I need to drive D.'s son today between the bouts of chest pain and I am worried about that. All this while I review all these papers...It feels like too much for my body and my mind.
Truth is...I am just tired of all the battling and struggling going on in me and around me. I am tired of the loss ( I am actually very sad about leaving the classroom). And all I want is peace. I would take the pain if I could do so peacefully. :) I would take the loss if I could do so peacefully. I would work myself to the bone if I could do so peacefully. This veil seems to be waving between me and the peace I want. Man I just want peace.
Anyway...I vented...and I will post today ...just to vent. I will remove it tomorrow.
All is well.
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- Robert Frost
The Veil
I am fully aware that there is still a veil between me and Self...as flimsy and tattered as it may be getting. :) It is still there. I am still allowing mind and body to rule at times. I forgive both though I work hard to get past that veil ego holds up. I am not "succeeding" at the moment.
Right now body is shouting and screaming...and mind is creating story around it. Sigh!!!
I am working very hard to finish this course I am teaching knowing that it is my last course. I have not much to offer these days to nursing students...being that I am no longer a "Registered" Nurse but I do have some hard earned writing wisdom I can share (as well as some hard earned life wisdom...sometimes they go together.:)) So it is fitting that the last course I teach in this context is Critical Reading and Persuasive Writing.
Anyway...I made a commitment to put in extra hours to assist my last bunch of nursing students to write a very good paper. They wrote an emotional one together to keep them inspired and motivated on the rest of their professional journey. This task required editing on my part and lots of extra hours but I felt it was important. Now they are writing a technical paper and I made a commitment to review each draft before final submission...that is 24 papers and each review takes over an hour. 24 hours I am not getting paid for or rewarded for in any external way. Sigh!!! lol. I want to uphold that commitment. I want to help. I want to leave knowing that I did all I could to help. That is my nature. Pathological? Maybe.
It is not going smoothly. Body and mind are obstacles for me. My arm throbs after a few minutes typing. (There is something definitely going on in there.) And the chest pain started yesterday. I knew I was doing too much...but I ignored the "4" the "5", the "6" warnings and skipped right up into a 9 last night before bed so I could continue reviewing these student papers until late in the evening. It was bad but the whole mental thing goes on when I have it, you know? "What's wrong with you? They don't think there is anything wrong with you so stop it...suck it up...keep going...stop being such a wimp" I have to get past all that before I will allow myself to take the nitro. Well I did manage to weave my way through the mental chatter...the body was determined to be heard. The pain got really loud so I took the nitro and it worked on the first shot...thank goodness. As usually happens when I have these "clusters", I woke up with it again in the morning and took the nitro again...relief.
There is a little battle going on in me ...What do I listen to when spirit can't be heard? Body or mind? Body won those two battles but if mind can't beat it, it joins it. It steps in to build story around the body. "Crazy fool! Look what you are doing. Chest pain again! And you are all alone in this...you can't even tell anyone about it. No one is helping you with it...and here you are helping others. What is wrong with you? You are allowing others to take advantage. You must see yourself as valueless. etc etc" On and on and on it goes. Oh man.
On top of that I have family obligations. Trying to get my daughter into university. The residence fee was due yesterday and we put it off til the very last minute because I had no way to pay for it...had to use credit again. Yuck! And issues with my son showed up. I need to drive D.'s son today between the bouts of chest pain and I am worried about that. All this while I review all these papers...It feels like too much for my body and my mind.
Truth is...I am just tired of all the battling and struggling going on in me and around me. I am tired of the loss ( I am actually very sad about leaving the classroom). And all I want is peace. I would take the pain if I could do so peacefully. :) I would take the loss if I could do so peacefully. I would work myself to the bone if I could do so peacefully. This veil seems to be waving between me and the peace I want. Man I just want peace.
Anyway...I vented...and I will post today ...just to vent. I will remove it tomorrow.
All is well.
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