Separate the "isness' from the mind

It is important to differentiate between external circumstances and inner commentary about those circumstance.  We need to separate the 'isness' from the mind.
-Eckhart Tolle (The Never Ending Present Moment)

Before I begin, I want to make it clear that when I speak about challenges here, I am not speaking about challenges like  the devastating loss members of this community have experienced  a few days ago.  It is not my place to comment on that type of intense trauma...a pain I can't even imagine.  I am simply talking about the challenges many of us face day to day: problems at work to a loss of a job, issues with house  maintenance or renovation to the loss of a house in a fire, problems relating to a  break-up or divorce , money troubles to a complete loss of income etc.  I am speaking about the challenges that we all face in varied forms and degrees.

Another  Need for Separation

I think it is important to once again use separation to make the distinction between the life circumstances we encounter and what we tend to say about them in our minds or to other people. 

An Example

So let's just say, for example, you run into some money troubles.  You suddenly realize that you owe more than you can pay. Automatically most of us  jump right to the 'reaction', don't we?  We find ourselves sweating, feeling a bit sick to the stomach as we clench our jaws and run to the phone to tell someone about the 'terrible thing' that showed up in our lives.  Right? 

If we slow it down and rewind the tape, we will see that the reaction was preceded by a fear based feeling of anxiety, stress, overwhelm, or panic.  That feeling was preceded by a deeply entrenched or conditioned belief system.  "If I do not have enough money, "I" (this person I identify as) will not survive physically, psychologically or socially." That belief was probably triggered by a conscious thought: "Oh no.  This can't be happening.  This 'should' not be. Why is this happening to 'me'?" And that thought stream was probably preceded by the life circumstance presenting itself to your conscious awareness in a given moment. This all happens so fast we are not even aware of any distinctions or separations.  We are lost in the reactivity.

Making the separation

We can, however, make a separation between what is happening and how we are reacting to it. So we have external circumstances, the 'isness' of a present moment .  In this case we have the realization that we owe more money than we presently have.  That in itself is not pleasant but it simply is what it is in this moment.  It in itself can not break us or make us.  It is just a realization about an external event.

Then we have the mind's reaction to it.  The thoughts begin to circulate in our heads with ego's encouragement very quickly.  Ego was probably waiting in the background, rubbing its grubby little hands together, for such an opportunity. The thoughts in the conscious mind come in and they are full of resistance.  "This can't be; this shouldn't be." We resist because the core belief in the subconscious mind is that a loss of money, a big debt, will be detrimental to who we believe we are.  It will destroy the 'me' we think we are. This creates an emotional reaction of fear.  Our behavioural response is then to avoid the nasty feeling, avoid experiencing what is, as well as the moment.  So we run away from it and get lost in the "concepts", the "drama", the 'story' and the "sharing of the tragedy" to further feed ego. This is where the suffering is.  It has very little to do with the actual external event but mostly the mind's reactive commentary.

So what do we do?

We separate the life event, the external circumstance from what the mind says about it.  In order to do that we can do several things:

•  We begin by practicing staying alert and aware of what is happening both around us and in the mind. The more connected to presence we are, the more likely we can do this with ease.  We do our best to stay connected to the deeper dimension, our inner spaciousness, the backgrounds of our lives (see April 18th's entry). We are given opportunity to  practice this connection all the time and not just in the easy situations or while we are immersed in a spiritual comfort zone. We are given many opportunities to practice by Life,  in the face of challenge.  In the face of your challenges if you are present you do not convert the challenge into suffering, you just be with what it is. -Eckhart Tolle.
• We don't expect that we won't slip up because we will.  We will get lost in commentary and reactivity again and again but the trick is to become aware that we got lost. The ability to step out of a stream of thinking and rise above it, that is transcendence. -(Eckhart Tolle, 2019) We practice transcendence.
• If you  find your self stuck and having a hard time separating mind from 'isness', ask yourself: "Where is my life?"  Most of us will answer with more story but catch yourself doing that  and ask again, "where is my life?"  It is not in your mind, not in words or concepts...it is not in yesterday or in the future.  It is right here and right now.  And really how much challenge do you have right here and right now?

Separation can be helpful

So once again separating what is real from what isn't can prove helpful in our awakening.

All is well

References

Eckhart Tolle (2019) The Never Ending Present Moment. Retrieved from  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jn706KxF-6k

A Moment Listening

"Hope" is the thing with feathers-

that perches in the soul-

and sings the tune without the words-

And never stops at all-

-Emily Dickinson 254: https://www.lorenwebster.net/In_a_Dark_Time/2004/03/08/emily-dickinsons-hope-is-the-thing-with-feathers/

I hear robins outside...What a beautiful melody they sing...so full of hope and  promise.  It is also full  of gratitude for life and new beginnings.

Many of us won't hear that song today.  Some because we are so wrapped up in our busy work or our mental activity, ruminating over what we did this weekend that we shouldn't of or holding our breath and waiting for that something 'better' than this moment to show up in the future.  Some of us are too busy distracting or numbing, stuffing emotion deep down inside so ferociously we bury the spring music with it.  Some of us, many of us in this community, will still be wrapped in such dark heaviness and pain we cannot see or hear anything beyond it.

Sigh!  It is true...many of us won't hear the robins singing so beautifully, just for us, just for all.  We will not feel the sun and mild breezes on our faces, will not smell the tangy  earth waking up below our feet.  We will be anywhere but in this moment. We will be somewhere other than in this Life right here and right now.

If we could only just stop and listen we would see what is truly important and what isn't, wouldn't we?  We would feel...like the robins...alive and grateful, would we not?

For those of us distracting, numbing, too busy and too caught up in our monkey minds, what a wonderful reprieve a moment of listening would provide...an opportunity to wake up to what is really important would ensue. 

And for those in the depth of such heavy grief...maybe , just maybe, it would offer a little comforting lightness to the darkness that has suddenly descended upon their worlds.

I don't know.  I wish we could all hear this music of Life together and feel the light of Easter in our hearts...if only for a moment.

All is well in my world.

When Tragedy Strikes

No popularity exists when tragedy strikes. All that's left are human hearts and love and ache. We all love each other, deep down, and when we see another soul in pain we can't help but hurt too.
-Maya Van Weegan (Popular: Modern Wisdom for a Modern Greek: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/tragedy?page=3)

There has been a terrible tragedy in this small community last evening. 

The narrative of the story goes like this: four teens were killed in a motor vehicle accident.  The details are not important though that is automatically what people go searching for and then cling to in these situations as if  snippets of specific information will alleviate the great heaviness that has fallen over everyone who has heard the news, whether they knew the families of these individuals or not.  Truth is words, details, concepts do nothing to alleviate pain.

There has been sudden, unexpected and what would be deemed as 'inappropriate',  death, loss and grief x 4.  That is the information that is important.  It is tragic.  It is heavy like a great emotional weight that smothers and suffocates.  People (and not just the family and friends but all people in the community) are forced to face pain in its ultimate form smack dab on. It is too close to home to escape or ignore. We suddenly cannot close our eyes to the reality that Life, as we know it in these human forms, is fragile and unpredictable. That may shake us to the very core. It is also a truth, however, that could save us.

In the acceptance of  this grief,  this confusion and  this suffering we now have the potential to reach beyond our little 'me-ness' to others. We can wake up to the reality we have tried so hard to distract from and numb from; suffering exists. We can offer our compassion to those who need it most as well to the entire community that is suddenly off balance. We can put away our differences to empathize and support. We can remember how much we do love each other.

We can also, because of our pain, reach beyond the clouds of confusion to faith and to a truth that is not dependent on the fragility of human forms or the unpredictability of life circumstance.  Maybe, just maybe, we can find some peace and strength in that. 

That is what I pray for, for the parents, families and friends of these individuals who have gone on so suddenly and unexpectedly. I do not pray that they not feel pain...I know they will but  I do pray that throughout it all ...a stream of light more powerful than grief and confusion shines through and that it offers at least  an inkling of comfort here and there. I also pray that someday...they, and all of us, will be  able to follow that light to the healing that is waiting for all of mankind.

Peace to all on this Easter Sunday.

Easter Light and Pussy willows

We ask that streams of  Easter light might flow into the intimacy and the privacy of our hearts this morning, to heal us and encourage us and enable us to make again a new beginning.
-John O'Donohaue, Walking in Wonder  https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/60588613-walking-in-wonder-eternal-wisdom-for-a-modern-world

Easter weekend and here is hoping everyone has a blessed  day remembering and embracing the Light of new beginnings.

Two things symbolize Easter and the arrival of spring for me: Light and pussy willows. 

Experimenting with the camera in capturing this  light...bear with me, you might see a lot of these candles my daughter made for me in the next little bit. :)

 

 

A Little More on the Foreground and Back Ground of Life

The absence of suffering is happiness, just as the absence of darkness is light.
-Thich Nhat Hanh (peace is every breath, page 97)

I have been thinking a little more on making the distinction between the foreground and back ground of our lives.  We make this distinction only so we learn...eventually there will be no need to separate anything.

This is what I came up with.  I hope it helps.

Foreground of Life

Background of Life

·     Secondary  dimension, horizontal dimension , doing dimension where  Ego dominates: ·         See Self as Our personalities; Our bodies; Our minds: ·         Dream State ·         All that is visible ·         Shallow and superficial ·         Dense, consisting of form ·         Lower consciousness ·         Dependent on the five sense for determination of what is real ·         limited ·         noisy and chaotic ·         temporary and constantly changing ·         can be reduced to and described with mental concepts and words ·         Fear rules here ·         Dangerous and unsafe ·         Dependent on concepts like past and future ·         at the mercy of circumstance ·         a sense of separation with borders and body lines ·         “I”…”me” “my” and “mine” ·         Reactions occur from this place ·         Promotes Contraction and retraction ·         Illusion can be found here ·         Birth and Death can be found here ·         Suffering or dukkha ·         Darkness

·       Primary  dimension ('e'),  vertical dimension, being dimension where Spirit, soul, Purusa, Buddha-Nature ( call it what you wil) dominates ·         See Self as so much more ·         Awakened state ·         All that cannot be seen…Invisible ·         Of great infinite depth ·         Empty, formless, spacious ·         Higher consciousness ·         Sees reality beyond the five senses ·           ·         Limitless ·         Quiet and still ·         Eternal and changeless ·         Nameless and beyond understanding with thought ·         Love rules here ·         Peaceful and calm ·         Dependent on the present moment, the only place it can exist…timeless ·         Beyond circumstance ·         No borders, no body lines…just One Union one whole ·         “All” ·         Response occurs from this place ·         Promotes Expansion ·         Truth can be found here ·         Life can be found here ·         Beyond suffering or dukkha ·         Light

 

Hmm! Which column would you rather be spending most of your time in? Something to think about maybe?

All is well.

 

As soon as we light up the lamp of right mindfulness, wrong mindfulness retreats.

                                     -Thich Nhat Hanh (peace is every breath, page 65)

A Little More on Learning from confrontation

I will practice right diligence to nourish my capacity for understanding, love, joy, and inclusiveness, and gradually transform anger, violence, and fear that lie deep in my consciousness.
- Thich Nhat Hanh (from peace is every breath pg 145)

Oops!

Okay I owe someone an apology somewhere.  :) I have been rationalizing my angry confrontation over and over in my head, trying to use the Dalai Lama's words to soothe my conscience with.  Truth is...I slipped and I own that slip. 

A Pure Motivation?

Yes, confrontation involving harsh words and strong action is sometimes called for if the motivation is pure. My motivation, other than my maternal need to protect my daughter, really wasn't pure.  I went into that confrontation this afternoon...ego first not presence first. I went into that confrontation in reaction mode, not response mode.  I went into that confrontation to protect the rights of an ego that always wants to be right...not the rights of Self. I went in hot headed, not calm and peaceful. I went in talking with anger and self righteousness, not listening with patience and compassion.

I may have been  50 % unconscious and 50 % conscious :)  which is not so, so bad I suppose. ...but still I want to do better.

Wanting to do better in My Practice

I want to do better.  I want to remain kind no matter what is happening to me or around me, no matter what others may be saying or doing...I want to remain kind.  I wasn't all together kind  today.

I won't beat myself up.  I see this experience as another learning challenge...All our relating situations  with others offer the best opportunities to practice, do they not? I see room for improvement in my practice and that is a wonderful, wonderful thing.  If I see it I can make room for a better me.  I want to be a better me ( 'me', meaning Self , in this situation).

What Can I do differently next time?

• Take time to cool down before jumping into a situation.  Ego runs head first into confrontation because it loves the Drama.  The presence in the background does nothing but calmly watches. 
• Connect with that presence before confronting.  I could have taken a few moments this afternoon to connect with that observing presence before calling.  I could have taken more than a breath....I could have done a full out breath awareness meditation. I could have calmed and soothed the body....before I confronted.  I just allowed ego to take over and that is seldom good.  :)
• Eliminate some of the emotional and mental story around the situation. I used past experiences with others, my own fear of loss and scarcity consciousness to create a story around this situation that was not necessarily based on truth. I need to take the time, to remove present moment truth from story and from past in these situations. Again that could have been done with a little time and space
• Remind self there is always two sides to perception.  When ego is in charge it is all about 'me' isn't it, not about the other person.  We use our own perspectives as weapons in an attempt to prove how right we are. 
• I could have actually closed my mouth to hear what the other individuals were saying.  I was so intent on being heard, I was not listening.
• I could be kinder...making kindness my priority over being right. I could let go of my need to be right.  Man, that is hard for the ego to do, isn't it?
• Remind myself and others that what we really want is peace.

I am grateful for the learning and offer a silent thought of apology and forgiveness for all involved ( including myself).

All is well.

Harsh Words and Strong Action

In actual life, you sometimes have to speak some harsh words or take strong action in order to protect or benefit the family-here the key point is motivation. The same action, or even a tougher action, accomplished with a sincere and good motivation, is sincere and good.
-Dalai Lama

I read these words this morning and thought to myself , "Oh that really doesn't apply to my circumstances right now." I went on my way and forgot about them. Then about twenty minutes ago I found myself slinking back to my desk needing so desperately to hear those words again.

Harsh words

You see... I took harsh words and strong action this afternoon against that company I thought was "ripping me off".  I perceived that they provided a misleading service ...asked for money up front without providing any receipt or written invoice of our purchase cost break down.  (My daughter who is absolutely loving and trusting of all things in life-what a wonderful way to be- was the one who sought the service on my behalf).  They  quoted the cost as one thing, asked for both the payment and  deposit upfront and she left believing we would likely get a refund.  When she came home that day without any written documentation of pricing and worse no receipt the hairs, I will admit, stood up a little bit on the back of my neck. I told myself to breathe and not to let ego suspicion emerge too fully.

Strong Action

But the hairs never came down completely. Today my daughter was informed by that company that not only do we not get a refund, but that we owed them. I got angry.  I felt cheated.  So I took a deep breath went to the phone and called the individual my daughter had been dealing with  myself.  I told her  that I felt upset because we were told a price and were expecting a refund but did not think it was fair for us to have to pay.  I got round about stories about what we were being charged with  and why... none of it clear.

I would have none of it.  I was  intent on being assertive and direct about the mistake the company had made . In response, the individual (doing what most egos would do in those situations wanting "the heat' off themselves) pointed a finger at my daughter, saying that she probably didn't understand the explanations. I felt myself getting more and more lost in the anger at that point, becoming a little more than assertive.  I was speaking "harshly" and threatening "stronger action". I was operating from emotion.

Trying to  See the Person underneath the anger

I kept  bringing myself back though...Catching myself in the height of emotion, calming down to some degree enough  to say to the individual that I was not doubting her or judging her as a person ...but was very frustrated with the way the business was dealt with and the consequences of it. Still...the anger and self righteousness would not go away.   I could not let them pin this on my girl.  "If the explanations were so hard to understand", I countered, "why wasn't written documentation provided in an invoice form detailing the cost breakdown?  Isn't that what most business' would do? Why was she not given a receipt?"

The individual defended herself by saying, "I would have given her one if she asked."

I suggested with a hint of superiority and an air of  higher knowledge, "Should that not be protocol?"

I asked to speak to the manager  but the individual truly wanted to explain the situation first.  I allowed her to, assuring her it was not my intention to dump my negativity and judgment on her. (I was conscious enough to do that lol). She agreed to send me a cost breakdown. I still was not ready to give up my ego need to prove how right I was and therefore how wrong they were.

Consequences

Eventually, I spoke to the manager. She was obviously already informed of my complaint and was on the defensive,  not very customer friendly during our conversation.  I reiterated what I told her employee and she was quite defensively, explaining that everything was explained and once again pointed a finger at my daughter's lack of comprehension. I got very angry then. I stressed the difference between what we were told and what we were charged and once again suggested, as if I was in a position to do so, a better business approach for future customers: receipts and written instruction on their charges. I also requested a full documented breakdown of our specific charges which I have yet to receive.  (I had incorrectly assumed that would have already been done for their own business records and could have been forwarded stat to a disgruntled customer ???)  I did inform the manger that I could take this further but decided it was not worth the effort (I was thinking of the cost to my peace and the hassle to my body and mind that would cause). Instead, I informed her I would never do business there again and if I speak to anyone about this service I will be honest and direct about my experience which will reflect very negatively on them. She assured me she would send the cost breakdown out right away. And that was it.

Cost to Peace?

Hmmm!  Did I do the 'right' thing if my true goal these days is to maintain a certain level of peace?

I did feel it was important that I stood up to this business which unfortunately meant confronting individuals who were employed there.  I wasn't kind throughout the conversation, far from it. (Which I regret).  And I wasn't all together calm.  I felt anxious and ready to attack. My ticker had a bit of a work out, let me tell ya. I slipped into and out of unconsciousness throughout the process.  I really didn't want to hurt anyone but I would not let my daughter or myself be treated unfairly either.

Still I felt guilty for slipping away from presence ( and at the same time I am not actually sure that I did completely...I was aware of behaviour throughout and kept pulling myself back...hmmm?)

Well some of you might say, Well you still got ripped off crazy lady. To which I would respond , Maybe. But I am okay with it. I expressed my truth  and my anger. I refused to pay the extra and I will let sleeping dogs lie.

Well  are you just  going to let them win?

There is no winners or losers in this.  What have I lost?  A few dollars of a refund?  What have they gained? Absolutely nothing of value. In their minds, they may have lost peace, money and business as well. 

What a wonderful learning challenge. Egos might feel as if they won or they lost but what matters is recognizing who we really are beneath all that ego drama and choosing that over being right.  When it is all said and done....I choose peace.


Confrontations can come at a cost to our peace.  Does that mean we should avoid them?

No.  I like the Dalai Lama's words. Sometimes we need to stand up and utter a few harsh words or be prepared for stronger action. Sure the individuals we deal with are valuable and are deserving of our respect. But we are valuable too. Sometimes a little assertiveness in the protection of our rights can remind us of that value. 

Of course, we need to practice asserting self with as little emotion as possible. We need to work on developing a kind and calm approach in such matters.  That isn't always easy, as this lesson taught me. Sigh....

All is well in my world.

A Pleasant Atmosphere

Whenever there lives a compassionate person, there is always a pleasant atmosphere.
-Dalai Lama

 

 

 

 

I have been blessed with children who show compassion for all living things.  It creates such a pleasant atmosphere in my home. Needless to say...we have had many creatures within these walls over the years.  So grateful.

 

All is well.

'Separation' May Be Helpful

Eventually everyone begins to recognize, however dimly, that there must be a better way.
-ACIM-T-Chapter 2:III:3:6

There were 22 days to that meditation series.  I was surprised to see that extra opportunity to meditate on Gratitude and Grace  this morning but very grateful. (Grateful for Deepak Chopra and Oprah Winfrey providing this free meditation series to the world) Today's meditation  once again exemplified what we spoke about yesterday...the idea of seeing Self in the other...of seeing Self as whole and not separated by body lines. 

As a student of A Course,  it became quickly obvious that one of its main teachings was echoed by Deepak Chopra & Oprah Winfrey today: Separation is an illusion.  I am whole and complete. 

 It has taken me a long time to fully realize that truth and I cannot say that I have completely mastered the 'lotus flower' lesson but it is sinking in more and more.  I am getting there.

Sometimes  'Separation' may be helpful on our paths to awakening.

There is an instance, perhaps, where playing with the idea of 'separation' may be somewhat helpful in our understanding of who we really are.  When we can loosely separate the little 'me' with its egoic  personality, its body  and its  mind from the true Self, the soul,  the Seer that  is hidden beneath the layers of obvious, we may begin to understand more clearly who we truly are. 

Most of us operate unconsciously lost in the drama of 'little me' and are anything but present or aware. When we can make the distinction between the two, however,  and then witness who is apparently in charge of our moment we can escape  from a state of unconsciousness back into conscious awareness.  We can  become aware once again of this separation between Self that is the background and the 'person' we have wrongly identified  as for most of our lives that is the foreground. This is the basis of presence according to teachers like Eckhart Tolle.

Say what crazy lady?

Separate the True Self from the "little me"


We need to separate the "little me" that makes up most of our Life foreground from the true Self that is always present in the background. We do that when we allow that true Self to witness and observe what that little crazy monkey minded person is thinking, feeling and  doing in the foreground.

The Reaction


I will give an example.  Today I found myself becoming suspicious of the intentions of certain companies and individuals who were providing a paid service for me.  I actually thought that they may rip me off.  I found myself physically contracted in my vigilance, my stomach and face burning, muscles tense and the words coming out of my mouth were anything but kind.  I was retracting, closing off, clinging to the 'little I had' and ready to defend and attack.  Not pleasant. 

 This reaction this 'person' was having was based on a thought.  The thought was based on a belief that was triggered by a certain amount of stress and fatigue as well a mistrust and fear of less than that this 'little me' has been operating under. The belief was, "Bad things will continue to happen to 'me'.  I do not have enough but I am always expected to pay more. Financial destitution is 'my' destiny. People have been unjust and unfair to 'me' before...they will continue to be so."   For a moment I was absorbed and lost in that reaction that involved a separate 'little me" against a dangerous "them". Yuck!  What a belief to cling to. What a behavioral response to fill my moment with. I was lost in the 'little me'...I was unconscious.

Separating Foreground from Background and Waking Up

In the midst of it, I suddenly witnessed myself behaving this way and very quickly I observed the situation and reaction from a higher place. I could 'see' what I was doing. In order to do that I had to have separated the drama of my person from the calm presence of my Self.  It was Self that was seeing. Self was witnessing what the ego was doing from the background. 

As soon as I realized that something higher, more conscious and more present was witnessing my experience from the background, I woke up and the reaction fell away...In fact "little me" fell away. Everything suddenly felt okay as it was. I was back in the moment aware of what was going on in me and around me right then and right there. There was no need to be suspicious, to defend and or attack in that moment.  There was nothing of value to cling to in that moment. There was no lack or no less than in that moment.  Past experiences were just memories and stories, in that moment.
There was no "them" in that moment...

There was just thoughts, feelings, circumstances coming and going.  The other people who I had perceived as separate and enemies  were just other representations of Self that may or may not have been lost in their own egoic minds.  Everything felt complete and whole from the perspective of this Self. I heard myself reciting, "It is what it is and it will be what it will be." And I felt peace.

In this case then, separating the person we have come to believe we are from the Self we truly are is beneficial. We need to see the two beings operating within us if we truly want to wake up.  Once we wake up fully there will be no need for "little me" and separation.  We will truly operate from one  state of complete wholeness then.

But for now a little separating is okay.

All is well in my world.

References

ACIM Text

Deepak Chopra & Oprah Winfrey (n.d.) Manifesting Grace through Gratitude. Chopra Center

Eckhart Tolle (2019) Do we bring about our own suffering? Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yEH_3GyfIag

Namaste

When your chest is free of your limiting ego,

Then you will see the ageless Beloved.

You cannot see yourself without a mirror;

Look at the beloved, He is the brightest mirror.

- rumi

 

I completed the 21 day meditation challenge provided by Deepak Chopra and Oprah Winfrey today and I am a little sad that it is over.  It has seen me through a very challenging month.  I never missed a day despite the fact that I had to deal with some pretty major life crisis' : more or less 'forced' into an early retirement (nasty word-'forced'-and I am not implying that anyone or anything outside of me pushed me into this decision), had loved ones hurting themselves because of their sense of suffering to the point of near death, emergency open heart surgery in a family member that meant going away for weeks at a time to be by his side, walking smack dab into  the consequences of addiction, and serious mental illness in close loved ones...not to mention the usual stuff: finances, a house I can't keep up, health issues that were a little worrisome and frustrating to deal with  etc etc.  Still I found time...in fact I craved and honored that time ...to sit and listen to some wise individuals speak of grace and gratitude. Those twenty moments each morning were the highlight of my day...my saving grace.  :)

 

 

Today's session was about being able to see through the eyes of the soul. When we do that we see light everywhere, most importantly we see that light in everyone.  That light we see is the same light that is in us. It is the light of the 'ageless Beloved' we see when we look into the eyes of the people in front of us. We are a part of that light so we actually see ourselves.

 

 

I am a student and teacher of yoga so 'Namaste' is a Sanskrit greeting I recite often. If you take yoga classes or have been fortunate enough to visit Northern India, you too have heard it used quite often.  But what does it actually mean?

 

Namaste, loosely translated from Sanskrit means " The divine in me bows to/sees/honors  the the divine in you."  It echoes what Rumi and the 21st meditation in this series speaks to.

 

 

Namaste!

 

References

 

Deepak Chopra & Oprah Winfrey (n.d.) Manifesting Grace Through Gratitude.  Chopra Center

 

Wendy Moore (n.d.) Why do you say Namaste? Do You Yoga.  Retrieved from https://www.doyouyoga.com/why-do-you-say-namaste/

 

Rumi (n.d.) Untitled .  Retrieved from Safo Archon's 7 Mystical Love Poems by Rumi https://theunboundedspirit.com/7-mystical-love-poems-by-rumi/

 

 



 



Connecting Dots of Belief

There was something undefined and complete, coming into existence before Heaven and Earth.  How still it was and formless, standing alone, and undergoing no change, reaching everywhere and in no danger (of being exhausted)! It may be regarded as the Mother of all things.
Lao Tzu (Chapter/Verse 25 Taoe Te Ching as translated by James Legge)


Connecting the Tao with other Religious Beliefs

Hmm! I read that last night before going to bed and it seemed to apply to our idea of foreground and background of existence.  Heaven and Earth, as we know them or believe them to be, are the foreground of this still, formless, solitary, changeless, infinite and fearless background. They are things on the canvas of what Buddhists refer to as emptiness.  All else is 'created' from this space

We may name this background, this "Great Being" God or the Creator, but Lao Tzu states he did not know Its name  so he just called it the Tao or the Way. 

Is it not the same? In many religious beliefs... God is the way, right...the direction to follow? God is also "Great"...meaning the higher power? In the order of supremacy described by Lao Tzu in this chapter ...we have man...than kings or sages...followed by Earth...then Heaven and finally the Tao...the highest power...  "The Great". Is that not the hierarchy  most western religious beliefs are built on?

Man takes his law from the Earth; the Earth takes its law from Heaven; Heaven takes its law from the Tao. The law of the Tao is its being what it is. (Lao Tzu)

We get back to the profound rule of accepting "it is what it is" because God is "I am Who I am"(Exodus 3:14, ESV). 

We, as mentally dominated creatures, go around naming things that maybe we are not meant to name. We reduce the "Greatness" of what simply is... to concepts we separate and protect from other concepts but ....could the truth behind labels  be universal?

Hmmm! That is what came to my mind as I read this...but what do I know, lol?

All is well!

References


Exodus 3:14, Holy Bible, English Standard Version

Lao Tzu  as translated by James Legge (1891) Tao Te Ching. Retrieved from https://www.sacred-texts.com/tao/taote.htm

An Arrogance Free Check List?

How much am I doing about my anger? About my attachment, about my hatred, about my pride, my jealousy? These are the things which we must check in daily life.
-Dalai Lama


The Beingness Checklist

As we put away our To Do lists for To Be lists, we begin using a different type of check list.  We begin monitoring, not what we accomplished or achieved of material world value, but what we have achieved of spiritual or internal value.  Of course it doesn't have to be an actual  list that we use to monitor our spiritual growth at the end of each day. I use that as a metaphor...a pointing finger only.

As I reflect on my beingness at the end of some days,  I happily discover  I did quite well with lots of mental check marks to show for it; other days, I struggle.    I still get stuck on anger and attachment quite often...especially when I am this tired! I am discovering that sleep deprivation does not help to add check marks to these lists.

Last night I felt the maternal-ego need to do an intervention at 2-4 in the am. (Tip for future reference-not a good time to do so lol). I was hot flashing and miserable as I approached the two lovely but somewhat lost individuals involved and I let them have it.  I was able to catch myself while I was well into my 'unconscious reaction' and brought myself back to that state of compassion and peace I want to 'respond' from but anger and attachment did get the best of me.  Sigh!


Learning from A Course

I am taken back to Lesson 186 in A Course in Miracles: Salvation of the world depends on me. If I truly want to do what I am here to do, I need to put away my anger, attachment, hatred, pride and jealousy.

These things take us from our function here and stop us from responding to others, circumstance, or Life in a way that will benefit all. They take us into busy doing, clinging, defending, pursuing, distracting, and seeking to attain an image of ourselves that we are not.  That is where the anger and attachment come from...our own arrogance

Arrogance makes an image of yourself that is not real. (ACIM-W-186:6:1)

Seeing Who We Are and Hearing What We Are To Do

Caught up in this image, we do not see what we and the people before us truly are.  We do not hear what we are really here for. Arrogance, in any of its forms, makes us deaf  to our purpose while humility sets us free.

Yet are the humble free to hear the Voice which tells them what they are and what to do. (ACIM-W-186:5:6)

It is when we forget to let God into our interventions...when we forget to connect to peace and presence... that the arrogant ego-mind takes over.  When we feel that we, as these limited little selves are the ones to solve the bigger problems in an external world way we become unconscious. 


It is not our job to fix others, circumstances or Life in the way arrogance leads us to believe.  It is our job to simply open up and let the true Self through so it can handle things in the way they were meant to be handled...with peace, compassion and love. We need  do nothing

The means are given us by which it will be perfectly accomplished. (ACIM-W-186:2:2)

I forgot my own prayer in my dealings with loved ones last night:

 

 

 

 

Use this ‘little me’ for the betterment of the world.

Let Me Be all that You intend Me to be

And let me pour that Self over all like a blanket

of compassionate love and healing

 

 

Oh well maybe next time I will do better and my check list will be something to be proud of.

All is well in my world.

References:

ACIM (2007) Workbook: A Course in Miracles: Combined Volume. Foundations for Inner Peace