Sensitivity in Social Interactions

 

For the awakened person...the body is no longer just a body. It is a field that receives and transmits subtle energies. When someone enters your space, their emotional state, their thoughts, even their unconscious patterns are felt in your body...not because you absorb them intentionally but because awareness has made you more receptive. This senstivity is a gift but it requires boundaries. 

Eckhart Tolle

I often write about how challenging it is for me to be in busy social environments lately...how challenging it is for me to be around very unconscious people.  After listening to this I understand why:

Your solitude is not a wall between you and the world ...it is a bridge to your essential nature

This movement from being to performing is subtle but for those who are awake or awakening it is profoundly felt.

Love does not always equal resonance. Care does not always equal alignment. Sometimes loving someone means loving them best from a distance without sacrificing your inner clarity...the more present you become, the more deeply you can love others but the less you tolerate the unconsciousness that accompanies them.

I pcik up so much that I cannot even understand

Every human psyche carries its own field of consciousness...its own turbulence...its own stories...the senstive person feels this instantly.

I hate wearing masks now!!

The masks are not wrong. They are not your true self...when someone enters your home[ your space] your mind instinctively reaches for the mask again. Individual performance feels deeply unnatural

It can get really overstimulating to be around a lot of people or to be with people who are very unconscious.

Human interaction when unconscious is noisy, even without words there is mental chatter, subtle tension, emotional residue. When two unconscious people meet, this noise is normal. It is all they know. But when an awakened person meets someone who lives primarily in the mind, the contrast is stark. The quietness of presence must now share space with the turbulence of thought. This is why true connection for the awakened person is rare. They can enjoy company, even cherish it but only when the meeting happens from presence rather than psychological identity. When two people rest in awareness together no one srains energy, no one performs. Silence becomes a companion rather than something to fill. but such meetings are uncommon.

I feel other people in my body!

The body knows before the mind understands. It says, "Something is entering my field. This awareness is not fear...it is intelligence.  The same intelligence that causes animals to withdraw when their environment becomes overstimulating. 

I feel very, very protective now of my time, space, ane energy. 

The more awakened you become the more fiercely Life asks you to protect your energy ...not as resistance but as alignment.  What used to feel tolerable appears noisy. what used to feel normal, begins to feel heavy. You no longer carry the emotional weight of others unconsciously. You feel everything so you must choose carefully what energy enters your space.

I have a hard time being patient with the repetitive unconsciousness of others if it keeps demanding things of this human I call me. 

Visitors [and others you interact with] especially unawakened ones often bring the past with them. They bring stories, opinions, unresolved emotions. Their presence activates memory, identity, history but awakening removes your interest in carrying these burdens. You want to meet Life fresh, without the weight of yesterday and so the mind resists being pulled into narratives it has outgrown.

Social interactions often feel so heavy and draining to me now. 

[They] also activate the ego, not because you want them to but because the ego is activated by attention. As soon as another person enters your space the ego awakens and begins to manage impressions, "How do I appear? What should I say? How should I behave? " This movement away from presence is felt immediately by the awakened person as heaviness...even with people you love deeply you sometimes feel drained. Not because of them but because of the unconscious energy that accompanies them.

I like to remember:

You don't need to entertain, impress, or host. Your simple being becomes healing [when awakened]. This is why the spiritually awake often prefer one-on-one purposeful encounters rather than casual visits. They crave depth, honesty and presence. They cannot tolerate superficiality, not because they judge it, but because it disconnects them from the truth of who they are.

All is well!

Eckhart Tolle Wisdom Why the Spiritually awake don't like visitors https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TI8PKAiUo-4

On the Need for Solitude

Some people believe that solitude means lonliness. that is because they have only experienced the mind's version of being alone, a state filled with anxious thoughts, fears and stories but for someone more awake solitude is not the absence of others...it is the presence of being. 

Eckhart Tolle

This is why I love solitude: 

The spiritually awake person is not antisocial, they value authenticity over performance

To protect this awareness is not avoidance...it is wisdom

When you are alone the boundary between inner and outer dissolves...you feel the stillness of the room merging with the stillness within you

It [suddenly finding yourself alone after being with people for a while] is relief from the subtle tension your body carried while perfoming. You rediscover yourSelf. You sense the return of a spacious inner sky as if the clouds  of social expectation finally drifted away.

When presence becomes your natural state any interuption of it becomes immediately  noticeable....Most people live in constant interuption so they never feel the difference but you do and that senstivity is not weakness...it is evolution.

...roles are subtle prisons....and once you experience freedom from roles even a small return to them feels suffocating

In silence, you remember who you are beyond personality...you sense the living presence that animates your breath, your heartbeat, your awareness. This is the dimension from which true connection arises, not from performance but from authenticity

When you are awakening solitude is not just restful, it is transformative. Your consciousness is reorganizing itself. Old patterns are dissolving, a new sensitivity is emerging. This inner shift requires spaciousness; it requires quiet; it requires that nothing interferes with the delicate process unfolding within you.

Constant social intercation prevents your inner Life from blooming. The spiritually awake person senses this instinctively. They are not withdrawing from the world, they atre nurturing the deepest part of themselves.

You begin to recognize the greatest service you can offer the world is not constant social availability , it is the radiance of your own aligned inner state. When your consciousness is clear, your presence lifts others effortlessly.

The spiritually awake person understands something most people do not.  Energy must be managed with the same care that others reserve for money or time. What you allow into your field shapes your experience of Life. The wrong company can dim your inner light. The right company can amplify it...and sometimes the most noursihing company is no company at all.

Solitude is not the absence of connection.  It is the deepest form of connection to Life, to being, to yourSelf

In solitude the mind becomes quiet enough for the truth to be heard. You meet the living presence that exists beneath all forms. This is why you protect your space, not out of fear, but out of devotion.

All is well!

Eckhart Tolle Wisdom Why the Spiritually awake don't like visitors https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TI8PKAiUo-4

On Not Loving Company

When the doorbell rings...and something within you contracts...it is the simple recognition that your inner space  is being touched...the mind reacts instantly.  It begins preparing a mask...a role...a posture...in that very instant you are taking out of the natural state of presence and pushe dinto the world of psychological identity.

Eckhart Tolle

I am not a big fan of company, especially unannounced company, or company that I perceive comes with a lot of expectation for me to perform. I literally cringe...feel a contraction in my gut...when I find out such company is coming over.  (This is not all company...just some).  It is not that I do not care for the people coming over, that I don't want to see them but there has always been something about people coming into my space that triggers me. This has been going on for as long as I can remember.  It gets more and more intense, the more I wake up. I couldn't completely undersatnd it until lately.

I came across this video from Eckhart Tolle that explains and validates my experience completely. 

Vistors don't enter your home, they enter the field of energy that you have been cultivating....an inner sanctuary where the noise of the world temporarily dissolves. Protecting that space is not selfishness. It is honoring the truth of your own being. 

Most people believe they enjoy constant company because they have never truly met themselves. Silence is unsettling to them because it reveals what is unresolved within (I relate this to Penses 139/Pascal) but for the one who is awakening...silence is not emptiness, it is nourishment

That is why the thought of someone coming over  immediately triggers a contraction -the mind   anticipates having to shrink this spaciousness back into a social form.

Visitors...activate the psychological self, the part of you that is conditioned by society, family, culture. This self is concerned with impressions, expectations, and social norms...when visitors arrive the mind tries to revive it. And this revival feels like a step backwards into unconsciousness.

Many people enter your home not physically but energetically with unresolved pain. They may be anxious, restless, angry, cheerful on the surface but carrying heaviness underneath. Even their expectations about how the interaction should unfold carry weight. The awakened person senses all this immediately. They feel the subtle disturbance in the field of awareness. The mind interprets this sensitivity as discomfort but awareness knows it simply as misalignment. The energy of the visitor is not in harmony with the stillness you cultivated. and so your whole being naturally withdraws not out of rejection but out of the instinct to return to presence. 

I am so free here as I sit here in this space doing what I do...so myself...but as soon as I hear someone is coming over...this sanctuary suddenly becomes a messy, unkept house others will judge etc. I like seeing my house as this place I can be me.

Your home becomes a temple. Your silence becomes a practice. Your solitude becomes a teacher. When you close your door you are not shutting people out you are inviting yourself in.

 One day you recognize something beautiful.  You do not need to apologize for your boundaries. You do not need to justify your solitude. You do not need to explain why visitors drain you. Your energy belongs to you. Your inner space belongs to you. Your awakening belongs to you. So, the next time the door bell rings and your body tightens...pause...not to judge the feeling...but to understand it. It is simply Life reminding you of who you are now. You are someone now who values peace over performance, presence over noise, truth over expectation. And the world desperately needs people who live this way. You are not rejecting others.  You are protecting the sanctuary where awakening happens., where you meet yourself, where you remember what you truly are.

All is well!

Eckhart Tolle Wisdom Why the Spiritually awake don't like visitors https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TI8PKAiUo-4