Love is something you either do or don't do inside yourself...
Love has nothing to do with the other person...it is already in you.
Michael A. Singer
I am going to proclaim something very bold and others may call be "grandiose" for saying such a thing but, "I think very much like Michael Singer does! We have very similar perspectives and wave lengths."
You or any other human hearing me say that might respond with, "No, you don't! You are just listening and learning from him and more or less regurgitating what he says."
There is some truth to that. I do listen and learn so much from him. I do assimilate what he has to say, putting it in my own words...but... I was thinking like this long before I ever read "untethered soul". I was studying yoga long before I knew he existed, coming to many of these realizations on my own. He, however, pushed me further into my understanding of these things by removing the "woo-woo"I kept tripping over, and presenting these ideas in a very practical and secular way. I just loved the way he explains yoga purification and it inspired me to learn more about samskaras and how to release them...thus the book I am writing now. I do owe much of my learning to him, but not all of it. Whatever was directing his learning, has also been directing mine...and possibly yours...and somehow that learning has intersected.
We do differ in our approaches, as well. I do not pay much attention to low hanging fruit, for example. I want to dig to the roots of this experience of living. Where as he might say:
Don't dig down to get it [the deeply buried and painful samskara], let it come up to you. Focus on the low hanging fruit in your samskara release practice first. (paraphrased)....
I say "dig!"
I realize now it is not so much that we should dig to get to that samskara, it is more of a digging away of the layers on top that prevents those hidden samskaras from coming up. It is about clearing the path.
What are we shoveling away when we clear the path?
We are digging up the articial layers on top of that which we are hiding from. We are shoveling through those parts of the psyche, the false parts of this "me" ego identification that gets in the way of us experiencing who we truly are. This samskara release approach I share is about removing, or more often, allowing Life to remove the false layers of personality that we over-identify with. If not the personality itself, at least our identificaton with it.
I thought of that as I listened to the below linked podcast on Love. I recently had this very same conversation with another regarding our expectations for intimate relationships. We discussed how texpecting others to match our preferences gets in the way of allowing the other person to be exactly who they are. And at the same time, expectations lead to resistance of the person being who they are, stopping them from triggering all our samskaras, so it is easier to remove what is truly in the way of our healing and therefore our innate ability to feel and experience love. Relationships are meant to rumble, shift, and loosen the earth above our samskaras ...to give us the incentive to clear the path and make room for these samskaras to arise so we can deal with them. So, we can grow into who we truly are.
It is not so much that you love the other person...you love love...
Love is not about the other person. It is about whether we are open or closed to the internal flow of it that comes form within. What closes the channel for this love to flow through. Expectations of how someone should be in order for us to love them!
If you want to feel love all the time...don't close your heart
We need to acept that people have their own sum of accumulated experiences governing how they see and respond to the world...that opens and closes their hearts. They are not there to keep our hearts from closing by matching all our expectations. The job of keeping our hearts open belongs to us...not them.
We need to stop resisting the "what isnness " of our experiences including the experience of relationship. In order to do that we need to surrender and accept.
Accept that people are not the way you want them to be
And reminding ourselves, as we look at the other person who didn't meet our expectations of them...
Nothing you did is worth closing my heart over.
I agree. I accept and learn to embrace these truths.
All is well!
Michael A. Singer/ Temple of the Universe/ Sounds True (June, 2026) Love is not Fund: It Is Unblocked. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UjN9fHFHNEw&list=PLyOuAoSmZkKoESr2acNWwhznusbBkKXsT&index=1
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