Trauma is perhaps the most avoided, ignored, belittled, denied, misunderstood, and untreated cause of human suffering....
Trauma is a fact of life. It doesn't, however, have to be a life sentence.
Peter Levine
Even though I have been gradually moving away from hope's confusing trance for quite some time now, I always start the summer all 'hopeful' for months of fun, excitement, and rest. By the time July hits, however, I suddenly 'remember' how hard Summer is on this body and therefore this mind. Humidity just wipes me of my physical oompf. Though it happens every single summer, it surprises me to realize how heavy outside and inside I feel because of it.
When your body is healthy you never have to think about it. When you are healthy mentally you are free to enjoy every moment of life. Michael Singer
I do not enjoy every moment of Life in the summer months. I do not experience joy, excitement, or rest because hope like the light air in a balloon dissipates in this humid atmosphere and this "me" that was the casing holding hope inside also deflates. I feel myself shrinking, shrinking, and shrinking, involuting into myself. I literally feel the heavy weight around me just squishing it all in. What humidity is really doing is taking me to the core by eliminating the remaining hope that keeps me from my center. This pressure takes me to this thing within my core I have been running from, that which needs to be released.
There is nothing affecting your inner state but you. Michael A. Singer
This morning I woke up and I had the full experience of it for the first time. What is the "it" that made itself known? It was that which I was burying for years; that which I was protecting from triggers; that which I was running from through constant busy thought and activity; that which was hidden by layers and layers of hope for something different; and that which I didn't dare look at or think about let alone "touch" and "experience. " Suddenly there it was, staring up at me. I seen it...I felt it...I experienced it.
"Oh My God...that is what is inside me?"
It seemed so unbelievable.
What we can change inwardly, will change our reality. Plutarch (Platonist Philosopher and author of "Parallel Lives".)
It was so deep and dark. My psychology-oreinted mind deemed it as overwhelming sadness, grief, and hopelessness that was heavy and all consuming, like some deep sink hole that wanted to pull me all the way in. I mean, I was always sinking into it but in my resistance, I was thrashing around so much I managed to stay on the surface of it. I was able to keep my head -my mind- up and away from it so I didn't have to see what was pulling me down. This morning, however, I looked down and I seen it. I just shook my head in surprise upon realizing that amount of darkness was inside me. My thought was, "I never thought I was that sick and sad; that broken."
Wounds don't heal the way you want them to; they heal the way they need to. Dele Olanubi
I reflexively looked away, but it was too late. I had already seen, felt, experienced what was there in my core...like a malignant tumour. There was no going back from that. I had to move forward on this healing journey.
After a failed attempt at resistance, I settled into the reality that this malignancy was there inside me. I felt exactly where it was in my body.
The body remembers. Stuffed until an event, a sound, a sight, a touch, a word, or a person awakens them. Unknown
Gradually, I came to terms with that fact that I was exactly where I have to be: experiencing it. No more hiding it, no more running from it, no more distracting from it. I have to see it. I have to touch it. I have to acknowledge it. And, I have to allow it, even appreciate it and honor it? (Or at least appreciate the experience of finally being at the point of this excavation process where I can see what is really there in the form of my biggest, most life-shrinking samskara.)
On a positive note...I see now how I have come so far in this purification process. This samskara was once buried under so many layers and now I have (or Life has) dug right down to it. It is obvious to me that I have released so much of the pain and distraction that was once stuffed and stored on top of this thing. I have unburied it so it can begin its release.
We dig a well and create a huge pit. The space in the well or pit has not been created by us. We have just removed the earth that was filling the space there. The space was there then, and it is also there now. Similarly we just have to throw out all the age-long sanskaras (innate tendencies) which are inside us. When all of them have been given up, the Self will shine alone. Ramana Maharshi
It is a doozie of a samskara, let me tell ya. It is kind of terrifying to even look at it. All the memories that formed it are not there, thank God. I don't think they have to be. I just have to acknowledge this big ball of dark emotional energy that was controlling my life from the shadows for so very long. It is so big and overwhelming. The light on the other side of it was unable to come through in anything but trickles. So, in order to survive in this darkness, I focused on building a house, a world of pseudo happiness with artificial lighting, on top of its sand. What I experienced to date as joy and love was only what this dim artificial light of hope offered and by looking outward to find the furnishings for this house I built. It wasn't real. It wasn't strong enough to last.
But everyone who hears these words of mine but does not put them into practice is like the foolish man who built his house on sand. The rains came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against the house, and it fell with a great crash. Matthew 7: 26-27 NIV
Obviously, the true light beneath came through just enough to encourage me to begin this journey inward. I felt directed to tear down the house I built on sand and dig down into what was below it. My learning is now telling me that I do not have to dig anymore...I do not have to reach down with an excavator to pull this thing up from the hole. I just have to be willing to allow it to make its own way up and out...to sit with it as it does that, to acknowledge it, to feel it, experience it, forgive it, honor it, embrace it, and let it go. I want it up and out of me. I want it gone. I am willing to go through the pain of sitting with it until it is gone. Sigh!
I have put away my wish and hope for summer to distract me with adventure, excitement, and a special kind of rest. I accept what it does to my body and mind. I even appreciate it because I see now that it takes me inward to where I need to be. I am not so much focusing on getting to all the Shakti in the form of light and love that exists on the other side of the samskara I am facing. I am just concentrating on healing, on facing this samskara and sitting with it...trusting that doing so will put an end to that which was determining my life to date. I just want the healing peace I somehow know freedom from this samskara will bring.
Experience, in and of itself, is your teacher...you are now holier than you were before because you experienced it. Michael A. Singer
So ...instead of habitually pulling away from this that I am now seeing I am preparing myself for a summer of sitting with it. I begin with, "Hello pain...you have been hidden away in here for quite some time, haven't you? I apologize for stuffing you away for so long. I was just afraid. I didn't know how to cope with you. I am still not sure how, but I am willing to get to know you now, see you, hear you, experience you until you are ready to move on. I want to be holier than I was before, by finally experiencing you."
All is well.
Where did the quotes come from?
- Michael A. Singer/ Seats of Contemplation: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LJuLquvJ-y4
- declutter the mind: 100 + PTSD quotes to help survivors: https://declutterthemind.com/blog/ptsd-quotes
- AZ Quotes: Samskara Quotes: https://www.azquotes.com/quotes/topics/samskara.html
- bible gateway: https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=Matthew%207%3A24-27&version=NIV